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A sad ending.
| Wed, 10-21-2009 - 9:37am |
I've read some posts here and there, and I never thought I would come to the place that I am at.
| Wed, 10-21-2009 - 9:37am |
I've read some posts here and there, and I never thought I would come to the place that I am at.
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Good Morning MoonUnit,
I'm going to cut to the chase and say after reading your last post, I agree with Sunshine. Your husband was a cheater and liar. His behavior was indeed destructive. Just because he saw it as a need for sex, doesn't make it ok.
MoonUnit
MoonUnit
Dear Moon,
Your husband is being extremely selfish, unreasonable, and even cruel in my opinion. You do not deserve this treatment. This statement:
My husband says to me having sex is his only connection because right now he hates me, and sex is the only emotional connection
is completely manipulative and plain wrong. There is nothing emotional about forceful sex. I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this. But someone has to sweetie. You cheated, you had an affair, we all did. It's ok. It doesn't mean you now have to be disrespected in such a demeaning way.
Sunshine
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MoonUnit
MoonUnit
Moon,
the way you feel is absolutely normal and to be expected.
It is in times of crisis such as these that we realize who we can count on and whom we cannot count on.
For sure you cannot count on your husband for your well being. He is killing you inside. Please accept it. You do not need this toxicity in your life, especially not right now.
your xAP, yes it is totally
Sunshine
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MU, please keep that T appt. tonight.
Your husband sounds like a bullish, selfish person. Why do want to live with a man like that? A marriage is a lot more than a roof over our heads and a warm body to come home to. It takes 2 involved and respectful of each other to form a partnership. You will never, ever get this from that man. Time to pack up and start your new life over.
Of course he won't go to T or counselling. He's too dang proud to admit anything is "wrong" with him and it's all your fault. Fix you and all is well with the world? Don't think so.
Your focus should be on you and you alone. And the pregnancy. Please don't see this baby as your tie to xAP. You have to want the child, not the connection you think it affords
MoonUnit
You can certainly say it here.
You are a kind person, Moon, and you will get what you deserve.
This mess will sort itself out.
Just look after yourself.
Sunshine
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Sunshine
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MoonUnit
MoonUnit
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