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A sad ending.
| Wed, 10-21-2009 - 9:37am |
I've read some posts here and there, and I never thought I would come to the place that I am at.
| Wed, 10-21-2009 - 9:37am |
I've read some posts here and there, and I never thought I would come to the place that I am at.
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MoonUnit
Did you go to T last night?
MoonUnit
This is all beginning to sound like a bad Jerry Springer.
MoonUnit
MoonUnit
"as far as my X-AP, when i ended the affair, i made a promise to him that i would termimnate the pregnancy. i have not yet, but i don't want to cause anymore undo stress in his life. i will tell him nothing. "
This may sound crass but F*%K your x-AP. His feelings don't matter. Why would you want to spare him any undo stress? He doesnt seem to care about your undo stress. The reason he hasnt been on line and you haven't heard from him is because he is running away with his tail between his legs. This is a serious matter and you are torturing yourself by not getting professional help about your dilemma. I remember what it was like when I was hurting from my affair and wouldn't tell my husband. Don't put yourself through this. I do think you need to cautious of your safety because you don't know how x-ap would react if you told him you were keeping the baby or how H would react if you told him you were pregnant by another man. This needs to be handled with care. The easy way out would be to get an abortion and keep the whole thing quiet but is that what you want? Would that keep this from happening again? My other question is why are you and H still married? You both arent happy if you are having A? Is your marriage worth saving to you? I am sending prayers and positive thoughts your way...
moonunit, how are you doing?
Are you close to making any decisions? Honestly, I think you need to be "getting your ducks in a row" if you know what I mean. You are at the core of this problem and every decision is very important, should be thought out and be about you and what you know is best for you. To heck with your husband and xAP. Though I must say I think xAP should know if you decide to keep the baby. But let's not worry about that right now.
moonunit, if your husband has been arrested for anger issues, does
"if the outcome is this child to be born, someday i will tell him, but not now.i can deal with this without involving him. this is by my choice not his."
Regardless of how rotten xAP is, it is his child, too. And, doesn't the child has a right to know who the father is?
"i know therapy is warranted, just wish my husband would want to."
YOU need therapy. You don't need you husband to come along. Go alone.
MoonUnit
MoonUnit
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