Sad today

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Fri, 04-16-2010 - 8:38am

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Sat, 04-17-2010 - 11:39am

Hi Alice-

I am sorry I am late responding to this... and I am very sorry you are sad. BTDT right? It will pass... I hope you have faith in that. We all have those moments and they do pass. Take solace in that. I don't have much time to write this morning, but I wanted you to know that I am thinking about you and hope you are feeling better today.

Hugs,

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Registered: 04-15-2010
Sat, 04-17-2010 - 11:44am

Hello Alice,

I just wanted to let you know that I was thinking about you, and wondering how you are doing & feeling today? You are such an amazing and wonderful asset to this board, and we are all here to remind you that 'this too shall pass'.

My thoughts are with you,

Hugs,

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Registered: 04-20-2009
Sat, 04-17-2010 - 12:40pm

Alice,
I'm sorry I'm so late getting to you. big, big hugs (a little late.) I hope you're feeling better today.

In response to my very first post, Goddess E1 compared the ending of my A to death -- and a really funny, whacky but totally spot on analogy of coffins at dinner parties... but I digress --- the point is: you are right on target re: the grieving process in relation to your A. I, too, lost my much worshiped father at an early age and so I was well versed in grief. It was very comforting to know that the grieving process is, well, a process. It has steps, and a pattern, and is _doable_. It's not just some random vortex of pain that sucks us in and under forever. Surrendering to the process means, funny enough, taking _control_. And having some semblance of control over my pain was paramount for me to feel hopeful and begin to heal.

And you know what?? The whole idea of surrender/take control is echoed in AA. I'm a big, fat expert in AA now - I've been to three whole meetings! ;) Which brings me to the point that I'm really, really happy you're going to cut out drinking, especially since it IS a depressant and a really lousy crutch. However, if you score any vicodin, call me up! hahaha, no, juuuust kiiding... but, um, maybe. wait. NO. no. no.

Let's us know how it goes; your posts are really helping a lot of people!
xo
Dee

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