A scene from Grey's Anatomy

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A scene from Grey's Anatomy
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Thu, 02-18-2010 - 8:43am

Interesting how this show seems to ALWAYS have a scene that hits me right in the gut. I just watched last week's episode (2/11/10) last night. I am not sure how many of you saw it, so I just want to set up this scene:

The roof of a restaurant collapses on Valentine's Day and Seattle Grace is flooded with injured patrons and employees. A married couple is admitted, along with one of the employees from the restaurant. The husband is in worse condition than the wife and he is admitted to surgery immediately. The wife is set up in a room and the employee of the restaurant pays Alex to be placed in the same room with her. The scene unfolds and the employee reveals that he has been in love with the wife for more than 15 years. Later in the episode, the wife is speaking to Meredith, who assumes that the wife is also in love with the employee. The wife reveals that 15 years ago she made a choice. She chose to marry her husband and makes that same choice everyday.

I was crying before I even realized I had been affected by that statement. We all make choices everyday. We made a choice to enter our A, we made a choice to betray ourselves and our spouses (if we have them), and we made a choice to end it. And everyday we make the choice to remain in NC and everyday we make the choice to work on our RL's. When phrased like this, it gives me a sense of control. I make the choice, as do all of you.

Hope this hits close for some of you and gives you that same feeling of control that I am feeling today.

Jane
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Thu, 02-18-2010 - 9:33am
It is my choice.
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Thu, 02-18-2010 - 9:56am

Jane -


Thank you for this post.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Thu, 02-18-2010 - 12:08pm

I saw that episode, too.

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Thu, 02-18-2010 - 1:46pm
My A gave me an excuse to give up on my marriage as well. I left my H twice this past year. I told him straight up on numerous occasions that I didn't love him and we needed to go our separate ways. It used to frustrate me that he'd just keep sticking around. And I remember saying to my friends, "how many times do I have to tell him that it's over?" Oh man, you have no idea how glad I am that he made the choice everyday to stay and fight for us. It was the fog of the A making me say and do all of those things. I really thought that my xap and I would end up together. I've never felt so stupid, but I've never been so grateful for my H's persistence. Had he not stayed, I'd be on this side of the A alone- my whole life in shambles. Instead, I get to make the choice to work on my marriage and re-devote myself to my H. I am one lucky gal.
Jane
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Fri, 02-19-2010 - 2:00pm
God Bless and Good Luck!
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Fri, 02-19-2010 - 2:40pm
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Edited 3/11/2010 6:30 pm ET by hazelrose2009