Self-care during NC with EAS

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Registered: 04-15-2010
Self-care during NC with EAS
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Sat, 09-25-2010 - 5:13pm

I feel the need to assist in the development of NC safety plans, particularly for newbies who might really find a need to post during the downtime.

So, shall we start a list:

1) Read the Healing Library - over and over again. Go as far back as you can.
2) Find a safe place to write/type out what you would like to share here once the board is back in full capacity
3) email a fellow EASer (I am putting the invitation out to anyone who needs to reach out during the downtime)
4) Turn off those cell phone & BLOCK all avenues of contact.

okay ... what else people?

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Registered: 07-21-2009
Sat, 09-25-2010 - 10:40pm
A big one for me was to take my thoughts captive. Huh?... Some might say?
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Registered: 04-11-2010
Sat, 09-25-2010 - 11:02pm

My biggest tip this week (week 3) is



'Fake it till you make it'



Everytime I wonder what xAP is doing- I consciously think 'Dont know, dont care'. I'm hoping this becomes true sooner rather than later :)



You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 12-07-2009
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 7:23am

I use a seperate email account just for EAS. Anyone can email me if you are in need of advice, just want to vent, or are having a bad day. Be sure to let me know your moniker so I know who you are. You don't have to tell me your real name if you are uncomfortable with that.



Iddy.2009@gmail.com



Hang in there everyone. The board is supposed to be fab after they make the changes.



((Hugs))



   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 04-23-2010
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 7:54am

Right now I seem to be on the hard line, and tough love types of thought. If that helps anyone, or you just want a MPoV, I am also available by email.



RatherBeMe@Hotmail.com



I dread the five days that are coming, as this is one of the activities that has helped me fill my time and thoughts over the last six months. Changing my life is dangerous.......at least for me it is. I think of you all as friends who need a little help in getting past this problem in our lives.



I am sure it will work out for most of us.



We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

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Registered: 06-08-2010
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 9:10am

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Heartache, you really hit that nail on the head.

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 9:50am


Force yourself to get out and do things that will take your mind of xAP. Stay active or immerse yourself in a project that will hold your attention.

I found it very helpful if I was around others and there was conversation flowing. My "quiet time" was always precious to me,
but for the first few months after I ended it, that once precious time soon became a time I used to wallow in. Distract yourself.

Clean out and throw away gifts. Delete emails and pictures. Remove yourself from any social networking sites that xAP is also on.

( Three days ago I discovered a stack of music CD's xAP sent me throughout our affair. Even though I liked the music, every one of those cd's were thrown in the trash when I went to fill up my car with gas. I didn't dare throw them out at home because I didn't want my H to notice it and I didn't want to tempt myself to retrieve them )

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 10:35am

I think it's important to not be caught off guard wondering what to do with the computer time we're used to dedicating to EAS. If you have a routine time to visit the board, try to find a pre-planned alternative. I'd hate to see a newbie sit down at the laptop and, not having EAS, succumb to fishing or cyberstalking to fill the void.

Feel free to email me, too.

Best,
Dee

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Registered: 09-23-2010
Tue, 09-28-2010 - 1:08pm

Hi Iddy:



Just wondering if you received an email from me?



Thanks!



GF

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 09-28-2010 - 5:55pm

Got it. Sorry for the delayed response. Work has been crazy.



((Hugs))

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 09-28-2010 - 9:17pm
Now that I'm back and have regular email/internet access, whoever feels the desire/need to email me - please do!

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'It may be that when we no longer know what to do,
We have come to our real work,
And that when we no longer know which way to go,
We have begun our real journey'
- Wendell Berry

Walk n' Block. Total NC 08-13-10

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'It may be that when we no longer know what to do,
We have come to our real work,
And that when we no longer know which way to go,
We have begun our real journey'
- Wendell Berry