self imposed DDay?

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Registered: 02-23-2011
self imposed DDay?
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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 2:52pm

I have heard some say that once the A is over and we are healing we should confess to our spouses that we were unfaithful and ask their forgiveness.

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Registered: 01-23-2010
Wed, 03-23-2011 - 10:15am

This is the attitude we all had when we gave ourselves permission to cheat. I found more liberation in telling than I have ever in my life. I was a very selfish, self entitled person before my confession. Confessing helped me to see myself for who and what I was and to fix it. To each it's own but I can tell you that I am free and our M is so much better. I don't have to wait on that other shoe to drop. My DH knows how badly I behaved (EVERYTHING) and he loves and respects me more than ever because I told. We are all human and make bad choices but having someone who knows that you acted as badly as I did and still loves you makes me appreciate my DH even more. No more secrets or lies for me.

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