To send XMM BDay present or not?

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Registered: 07-25-2003
To send XMM BDay present or not?
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 12:22pm
It's XMM's birthday later this week. Question: I bought him a book about meditative prayer (based on a retreat i went to recently with my church). When i told him about the retreat and the book he was very interested. I have purchased beautiful wrapping paper and ribbon; the book is lovely and meaninful. Should i sent this, or let it go?

I have also considered cutting him a CD of music i have been listening to. (Not any romantic music, mind you, but just some fun stuff i have discovered lately. I once gave his son a CD i burned for his birthday and my XMM tells me they all listen to it frequently in their car). If i were to do this, i would write a note that the CD would self destruct after 2 listens, so he wouldn't have to feel he had to hold on to it, and then potentially have to explain it's origins to his W!

I have often been told that if you have to seek so much advice on something--then maybe you shouldn't do it. I don't know. It's not a big deal, but something i have been wondering about.

Any thoughts?

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 9:52pm
I'm so glad that you are better than you were....sleeping well and not dropping pounds is a good sign. I do think however, that your husband is getting an opportunity to meet with the therapist and talk about his feelings..what about you? YOu should be able to see someone also, or see the same therapist but on different days. It doesn't sound fair to me, it is almost as if you have to wait for your husband to get help first.

But this is just my humble opinion.

Little by little you will get where you need to be. Seeing the A for what it is was an important first step.

Jazzdiva

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