Sent his wife a letter!
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| Sun, 01-18-2004 - 7:08pm |
Here's a note from "Dear Prudence" that I found interesting.
Dear Prudence,
I received a letter informing me that my husband was having an affair. The letter was unsigned and offered no proof. The letter did not mention a specific woman by name but described someone who is involved in our life in a business matter and whose husband plays with my husband on a sports team. At times I have been uncomfortable with the interest she would show in my husband, but I am confident that he never encouraged or returned the interest. When I showed him the letter, he also felt it was describing this woman but assured me that he had never at any time been unfaithful—with her or any other woman. I completely believe him. He is a very family-oriented man who loves and respects me. For other reasons, the timing is very good right now for my husband to quit the activities that currently involve her and her husband, so he is going to do just that. Our question is whether we should let her know that we received this letter. We have no idea who sent it, but it could be her husband, out of jealousy, or perhaps she sent it herself in an effort to sabotage our marriage. We feel she needs to be told that she's been accused of this and perhaps should change her behavior. What is your advice in this matter?
—Secure in My Marriage, and Looking To Do the Right Thing
Dear Sec,
Prudie's inner Miss Marple says the husband did not do it; the wife did. There are head cases like this who write anonymous letters in the hope of making trouble and putting themselves in the middle of a drama. Do not mention the letter to anyone. The inference from your silence (as well as your husband's) will be that the issue was a non-starter and was dismissed by you, out of hand. (The woman would not change her behavior, by the way, simply because you suggest she do so. This kind of nuttiness is "suggestion-proof.")
—Prudie, confidently



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