Separated Forever-Gotta Go...

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Separated Forever-Gotta Go...
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Wed, 02-25-2004 - 12:57pm
My SMM & I have been in an EMA for 4 years, he left home & got his own place last June. Trouble is, he's still married and gets furious & tells me to leave him and find someone else when I bring up the subject of divorce. He's "good friends" with his W still, and it's gotten to the point now where he's cancelling plans with me just to be in the same bar they still both hang out in, that she's forbidden me to come to. Does anyone else see that he's still playing both sides? I mean, we can be together all of the time and I've been cut back to 2 or 3 nights a week, and now I'm getting pushed away. This has got to end, even if SMM did divorce (fat chance), I'm not living this way. Anyone else have to get out b/c of MM/SMM just not making progress? I think SMM & W would both live separate forever, I'm not going to be the one who keeps getting strung along...thanks everyone! CATS
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 6:59am
catsaplay~

You don't want to be strung along? Honey, you are...and you have been for 4 years. I don't mean to sound harsh, but understand, this will MOST likely not work out to your favor. Your MM has already shown his colors....he's half way out of his marriage--and he's STILL choosing his wife. What more do you need to see from this?

I think, imho, its time for you to give him the boot and move on with your life. YOU deserve MORE then this.

big hugs!

dharma

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 12:30pm
See?? That's the problem with being in an affair...if you GET him to leave his wife, he STILL might not leave her!!! It sounds like you are stuck in limbo, and I would just get the heck outta there. Be like Carrie in Sex and the City and just say, "This is not what I want. I am a person looking for love."