Is seperation a mistake
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Is seperation a mistake
| Tue, 11-02-2004 - 1:49pm |
The discussion of seperating for a while came up in our last discussion about what we need to do to get the A out of our day to day lifes. I keep breaking NC and she finds out and the roller coaster continues, for her. She wants to have some time to not have to think about it, to not have me right there every evening. I am concerned this is just the first step to D. That it won't help keep the communication going. For those that have tried this, do you have any advice? Does it help or just cause more problems?

If you keep breaking NC, as you posted here, I think you're not all that serious of breaking off your relationship with OW as you say you are. Your actions are speaking much louder than your words.
So, to me it seems, separating and divorcing really seems the path you want to follow, although it also seems you want your wife to initiate the divorce so you can tell yourself you were "trying" and "she" ended it.......
just my opinion based on your post,
cl-nre
P.S. Both you and wife need some time-outs, like a movie or something. YOU need to go alone and NOT contact xOW if you're at all serious about your marriage recovery. Otherwise quit the delusions, sign the divorce papers and cut your wife loose to be with a man whose actions reflect his words.