Seven Weeks of NC!!!!! Long

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Seven Weeks of NC!!!!! Long
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Mon, 11-16-2009 - 9:30pm

This post is really just for myself and for those that are lurking or just beginning NC.


How could seven weeks of NC

 

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Registered: 10-21-2009
Mon, 11-16-2009 - 11:12pm

What a wonderful post, thank you for sharing. I am so envious of anyone who is able to go NC, I am craving it - but me and xAP work together, and have to stay LC - and anyone who had to endure it, knows it's a special kind of torture. And of course he won't leave me alone - 4 months after I ended it. Sometime I wonder what's wrong with this man for not being able to let it go - but I guess us women not the only ones dealing with being addicted to affairs.

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 04-04-2009
Tue, 11-17-2009 - 4:37am

SEVEN weeks!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yay!!!! I am so happy for you, Kristin

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Htgo

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Tue, 11-17-2009 - 9:26am

Kristin, my dear-
You posted this for ME! Thank you!! The similarities are stunning - right down to the 3 kids. You sound so pulled together and wonderful, which is _not_ similar to me right now, but I hope it will be soon. Yesterday was very difficult; I cyber-stalked, which led to discoveries that really sent me into a tailspin of jealousy, anger and disappointment. The urge to confront my xAP are almost overwhelming. I couldn't sleep last night (actually, nothing new) and I got up this morning praying for support and encouragement from EAS which would set me back on my right path. You provided that support and encouragement in SPADES! thank you. I identify with you so closely, thank you for sharing, and I can think to myself, "If she can do it, I can do it!" More specifically, not just that I can survive the NC and the end of the A, but that I can come out of all of this a better, happier, and more fully realized woman - and that the pain is not only survivable but that there is an expiration date on on the suffering.

NC really is the only way. Yesterday was a painful lesson in the subtleties of NC, meaning NC is not just no Direct Contact, but also no cyberstalking, no drive bys, no psychic reaching out, and MOST important, NO ALLOWING THE A OR MY XAP TO RENT SPACE IN MY HEAD. NC really does mean 'no new hurts".

Reestablishing a healthy relationship with God, my family and MYSELF, as you are doing, is my #1 goal. I hope that you will continue to post about progress; you're a huge inspiration.

Much love and respect to you!
Dee

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Registered: 04-07-2009
Tue, 11-17-2009 - 12:00pm

Dear Kristin -


Just wanted to say congratulations and WOW have you come a long way in 7 weeks.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Tue, 11-17-2009 - 12:59pm

Congrats. Kristin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Big, big hugs,


E1


Whether you think you can or you think you cant you are probably right.


A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.


Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 02-28-2009
Tue, 11-17-2009 - 6:11pm

Dee,


I am happy to know that you found this post helpful. I think we have all felt twinges of every emotion no matter what our circumstances. There are some really great post on anger and the five stages of grief in the Healing Library.


I think NC carries a different meaning for every person. To me NC signifies a form of closure in it's own right. To me NC is the ultimate statement for someone that feels the need to have the last word. To me NC is an end to an unhealthy addiction.

 

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Registered: 02-28-2009
Tue, 11-17-2009 - 7:42pm

Thank you everyone. I am very proud of myself. I want all of you to know that I couldn't have made it this far without all of you. I still have along way to go before I am fully where I want and need to be. With each day of NC that passes I get more and more confident that I will get there. Thank you all once again.


Big hugs to all of you,


Kristin

 

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Registered: 10-04-2009
Wed, 11-18-2009 - 1:44pm

Kristin -


Thank you for your wonderful post.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Registered: 01-23-2009
Wed, 11-18-2009 - 1:58pm

Hi Kristin -

I can identify with a lot of what you said including the steps you are taking to be happy. It helps doesn't it? I do things that I know will end up making me happy when I do them even if I don't really feel like doing them if that makes sense. It helps me quite a bit and I always feel good after doing them. For example, I still don't really look forward to working out, but feel great afterwards. I usually don't feel like going to my bible study, but definitely always feel great afterwards. I just wanted to let you know I'm so happy for you and the peace that you have found.

Take care

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Registered: 02-28-2009
Fri, 11-20-2009 - 1:51am

Gal,


Thanks for the support. Congrats on seven weeks NC.


Hugs,


Kristin

 

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