Sex with husband?

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Registered: 04-23-2003
Sex with husband?
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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 6:04pm
Ok I havn't posted here but I have lurked a few times. I've recently decided to make things work (or at least to try) with my husband and ended an affair in the process. Now I'm having a problem. I can't get off with H. We had an ok sex life before the A, but things with mm were much diffrent. In many ways. He was much more attentive, and larger. And sex was mind blowing with him. With H it was always ok before, but now almost like a chore, cause I'm getting little to nothing out of it. On top of that H is a vary over weight and I find any position vary uncomfertable. And some if he puts his weight on me almost painful. I've tried saying things to him but our marrage is in a very delicate place and he acted hurt so I've kept silent. Is there anything I can do to change any of this with offending him?
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Registered: 12-05-2004
Fri, 01-21-2005 - 8:54pm

Momof writes:<<>>

How about changing things around the house. Insist on going out on walks together (don't know if its cold where you live or not so <?>) Throw out the junk food in your house. Investigate South Beach Diet or Atkins etc. Get books to read and for him to read (even if you have to leave them in the bathroom for him to pick up on his own lol).

Tell him you love him.

Tell him you don't want him to have diabetes. (tell him how it affects sexual function, circulation, heart trouble etc...that you dont want that to happen to him).

Tell him you want him around a good long while.

Tell him that you want to have monkey sex with him lol

Encourage, Encourage Encourage (different mindset than nagging)and if he takes to it...praise praise praise.
hope this helps,
Lizzie