she said, he said

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Registered: 03-05-2004
she said, he said
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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 8:08am
His W screamed at me yesterday. I stayed cool. She said, "Just so you know, I am aware of what's been going on between you and my husband you F--- wh---." My reply was a cool question, "Do you know what harassment is?" When she said yeah, I walked away as she was yelling something about me being a homewrecker. I think my lack of argumemt pissed her off even more.

When I saw him at work we spoke professionally. As I left I caught up with briefly. I'm not sorry I did because I said some things I needed to say. He told me something that set me off. He told me he thought she was going to have a nervous breakdown and he felt bad because it's all his fault. I copped the biggest attitude and snapped back, "That's just great. You go ahead and feel bad for her. Screw me. My feelings don't count. They never did. Further proof that I am nothing to you. You just used me. It easy to sh** on the people who care about you the most." I told him that he should've been an adult about this and let me go when I knew things would get ugly, but he made me a zillion promises and told me all about "someday." I also told him that I've come to a realization and it made me sad. I told him that I don't have room in my life for someone who doesn't have the courage to stand up for himself. I won't be there the next time she dumps on him and abuses him. I told him that women aren't the only victims of abuse (be it mental or physical) and he's on his own. His problems are with her and it's up to them how to deal. He once again told me he was sorry. He never wanted to hurt me. The timing was all wrong. etc. As I left I said "well, it's not confirmed, but I'm pretty sure she told XYZ" She promised him she wouldn't bring this to work. I thought his face was going to fall off. I walked away. God that was hard. I'm trying here gals. Just waiting for it to get better.
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 9:36am
Yikes, it sounds like it might be a little ugly for a while. Stand your ground and be professional, that's about all you can do. I also work with XMM, but I work just a day or 2 a week so I don't have to see him all the time. Strive for as little contact that is possible. Yes, I know working with him will make this difficult.

Good luck with his W. Sounds like she might make it difficult.

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 9:39am
I hope you are doing better, I am sorry to hear his wife got invoved. It would be much easier if you didn't have all that to deal with. But I am glad to hear he chose his wife over you. I guess he isn't a complete dog after all. Maybe find a man who isn't married next time.