shocked

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Registered: 05-07-2004
shocked
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Fri, 05-07-2004 - 6:03am
So, after all the reading I did about affairs and all the denial that mine would end badly, yesterday morning, we had sex, he told me he loved me and kissed me goodbye and an hour later called me and told me he missed his old life. I felt like I was hit by a baseball bat, especially since today was the day the were to go to court for the divorce. I flipped out so bad that I moved him out that minute and put all his stuff outside. So I guess what they say is true, the relationship won't last and the OP will be the one to be hurt. I'm crushed, I can't eat, I shake all the time and I woke up every hour last night and thought about him and her sleeping together while I'm alone. I feel like I won't make it through this (althought, realistically, I know I will) and I've never felt so much hurt in all my life. The best part, I get to drive by their house everyday on my way to work.
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Registered: 07-08-2003
In reply to: sucker04
Fri, 05-07-2004 - 9:54am
You WILL make it through this and for heavens sake, find an alternate route to work!!!! LOL. (Unless of course you live in a very rural area and there's just no detours!). Aw, honey, I'm sorry for the way that your A ended. I think sometimes theres alot of mental gymnastics going on in one partners mind, and the other partner thinks everything is just fine and then the end comes like a bolt from the blue. Because an A is just that, we never truly know what's going on inside our partners mind. We invest alot of emotions, time, etc., in someone and we really don't know the whole story. We don't see them 24/7, we don't know what they're telling their Ws or SOs, we don't know what's in their hearts, and there's absolutely no commitment. Regardless of what we all may "say," who knows what's really going on? Add to that the fact that when we've managed to sneak away from life and grab some precious time alone, emotions and passions are running high and we're in a state of pure euphoria. That's definitely not the time we want to start having an open and honest discussion about where the "relationship" is going. I know that doesn't make it any easier for you, so I'm sending some cyber ((((((hugs)))))) your way. Somehow or other, all the posters on this board are making it through NC one day at a time, and I assure you that you will too. Keep posting, we're here for you! Love, Mo.

mo 7-18-10

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Registered: 04-03-2004
In reply to: sucker04
Fri, 05-07-2004 - 9:59am
Mo

What a post. You summed that up so well.