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| Wed, 03-23-2005 - 8:56am |
Hi all,
I’m not sure if I should be posting here since I’m still in the process of thinking if I should end it or continue with it. In short, this is my story: I’ve been seeing (6 month) a coworker who is also in a serious/long term relationship. We’ve known each other for 2 years now, we are great friends as well as lovers; we have so much fun together! We’ve gotten so attached to each other. When I decide not to call him, he’ll call me and vice versa. It’s such an emotional rollercoaster. We talked before and decided that we should slow down and focus on our own relationships but when we see each other everything goes out the window…and fall of each other all over again. And we see each other all the time; we spend hours on the phone. I don’t know what to do. Should I stop talking to him all together? Is it time to move on? It’s so hard because it’s really changing my relationship at home. Any advice- what would you do?
I’m not sure if I should be posting here since I’m still in the process of thinking if I should end it or continue with it. In short, this is my story: I’ve been seeing (6 month) a coworker who is also in a serious/long term relationship. We’ve known each other for 2 years now, we are great friends as well as lovers; we have so much fun together! We’ve gotten so attached to each other. When I decide not to call him, he’ll call me and vice versa. It’s such an emotional rollercoaster. We talked before and decided that we should slow down and focus on our own relationships but when we see each other everything goes out the window…and fall of each other all over again. And we see each other all the time; we spend hours on the phone. I don’t know what to do. Should I stop talking to him all together? Is it time to move on? It’s so hard because it’s really changing my relationship at home. Any advice- what would you do?

Babygurl
IF your married then you need to end this once and for all and deal with your marriage one way or another BUT do not end a marriage while involved with this man because the simple truth is as long as your involved with him you cannot honestly access your marriage or spouse as long as your looking at them through this fantasy relationship that has none of the real world problems that a marriage or above board relationship has.
This fantasy relationship feels good because it has none of the done side stuff no RESPONSIBILIIES that real relationships have, almost all affair based relationships turn turtle in less then a year once they go public and face the real world and all the things that brings into a real relationship.
Tell him your done ans INSIST that he respect your wishs and enforce NO CONTACT with you, if he does not agree it shows a lack of respect and selfishness and selfishness is what most affairs are based on.
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