Should I bother???

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Registered: 09-10-2004
Should I bother???
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Mon, 10-11-2004 - 8:30am
I just received a short, one sentence birthday greeting from a former MM. So far, he's honored NC for the last four months. (The A itself only lasted about 4 months) The poor soul has been in a loveless marriage (of course) for the last 18 years and can't leave b/c of the kids (naturally), but he told me repeatedly that he really, really loves me.(Really)

Do I simply reply "thanks" and leave it at that? I was wondering about him just the other day, a little more than usual, probably b/c I had a feeling he'd contact me today. Would it open a can of worms if I acknowledged receipt of his e-mail? I would like to know how he's doing. Or is that a no-no? I feel I've moved on from him and the emotional attachment that was forming has subsided.

Well, not gonna spend too much time agonizing over this; just wanted some other opinions.

Grace
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Registered: 09-22-2004
Mon, 10-11-2004 - 8:45am
My opinion??? Don't reply. If you do, he'll contact you again and before you know it, your right back where you started. I am happy for you that you have moved on from him. Do yourself a favor and don't put yourself back in that position. You have come 4 months. If you contact him, you are putting yourself in the path for being hurt.

Looking forward to making it 4 months with NC myself...

Frisco

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Mon, 10-11-2004 - 4:26pm
Grace

NO CONTACT, your emotions can come back on you very very quickly with out warning.

Free

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Registered: 12-17-2003
Mon, 10-11-2004 - 4:35pm
I am going to have to agree with the others. DONT reply. It just opens the door for more communication with him and even you feeling now that you are OVER him, your feelings can come back quickly. One phrase may trigger something.

Just keep your NC. It really is the best thing!

Happy Birthday to YOU!!

Hugs

MB