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should i write to him?
| Wed, 09-29-2004 - 4:45pm |
i have been down all day. this no contact thing is killing me slowly....
i have been thinking about sending om a letter and telling him how i feel.
i want him to know i am in love with him. i want him to know that i think
about him all the time and that i am sad with out him.
what do you guys think?
thanks

If you are really truly set on ending the A, then don't contact him at all, ever. Remember for every action there is a reaction. You do not know how xOM is going to react to you putting it all down in writing. Can you handle it if what happened to Toosmart happens to you? And on the flip side what happens if he decides he wants to continue the A are you willing to do that?
Just some questions for you to decide how much you can handle at this point. How about if you write the letter and then just save the draft without sending it. Re-read it a few times over say a week and then see if you still feel like you should send it. I have many drafts since the day my A ended saved in my draft file, none of which will ever make it to OM's computer. What's done is done, what had to be said, was said, what wasn't said will never be said. Doesn't make it any easier but take it hour by hour and day by day and you will get thru this. I am on day 19 and still struggling but I know from the support I get here that I will make it.
{Hugs}
DAF
I agree with Daf.
Xmm to tell him happy birthday. I sent it to a email
account that one that he used only for email from me.
I didn't hear back from him for 2 weeks and his response
was that he hadn't checked that account in a long time..
That is when it dawned on me that it was over that I was
the only one hanging on by checking mine daily like I had been
doing for so long.. Wanted to share that..
The only thing that you will be doing like love said will be
lowering yourself and leave him thinking that you are pining
away for him.. It's time to move on and do what you need to
in order to make yourself happy..
Lost
Don't do it. Like the others said, it will accomplish nothing. And if he doesn't respond (he never responded to my email), then you will feel even worse, trust me. It's just not worth it. Put your effort into something else, something for YOU.
Many hugs.
Edited 10/1/2004 6:22 pm ET ET by sally289
i guess i am down again because i received his wedding invitation.
i want him to know how i feel, and i would love to know what he feels.
i know we are friends and deep inside i think he did care about me.
the circumstances though were not there. we all know each other we know each others families.
getting together would mean hurting a lot of people first and that is what made what we had impossible. even though i would like for us to be together, i dont know how the people around us those involved would react to a divorce or to us getting together.
i still want to send that letter. it came out pretty good. but i am going to hold on to it for now and read it again on monday.
thanks for listening and for the advise