Should you tell your spouse/partner a...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Should you tell your spouse/partner a...
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Fri, 05-28-2004 - 6:34pm

Should you tell your spouse/partner about your infidelities?



  • No, never!
  • Only if they ask
  • Deny it even if they do ask.
  • Suffer in silence forever feeling guilty
  • Tell them every little thing
  • Tell them just the big stuff, no intimate details
  • Pretend it never happened
  • Yes, of course. Why hide it?
  • Other? Please explain
  • They already knew!


You will not be able to change your vote.


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 05-29-2004 - 7:58pm

Ok, folks, I

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 05-29-2004 - 11:50pm

Count me in as @ 10.... 3 guesses which way

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2004
Sun, 05-30-2004 - 2:48pm
How about a "Depends on your situation" option. ;-)

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Registered: 05-31-2004
Mon, 05-31-2004 - 8:51am
My moto of cheating is deny till you die! If you eventually tell the truth you will be in a month long debate over first why you did it and second why you lied so I say deny till you die eventually they will quit bringing it up.
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Registered: 12-15-2003
Mon, 05-31-2004 - 11:22am


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I am sorry that is so selfish. It diminishes that your spouse or gf/bf is a human with feelings.

You really do not "get it" and lets reverse the situation....how would you feel if your partner cheated on you and you found out...would you eventually just shut up about it?

Do yourself and your partner a favor if you feel this person is such an annoyance in your life end it with them and be with someone you truly love and care about.

Sorry to be so harsh but your response is so cold...I feel bad for your partner and your OP.....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 4:23pm

MG, some people can do that. I, for one, can't. I lied by omission to my husband many times through the duration of my affair. He often saw through it but chose not to confront me with his knowledge. Eventually, I did sit down with him and talk about it all. Yes, it was very difficult for both of us, but it gave us both a chance to clear the air.


My affair has been over for more