Sick and shaking :(

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Sick and shaking :(
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Tue, 01-12-2010 - 12:03pm
hey all...well I opened my facebook this morning and had a message in in my inbox from an unknown sender named "Sunny Smith". It was a cryptic message full of bible versus about an adultress...and how she leads a "halfway house to hell" among many other things :( I dont know if it was sent from w or xap..probably both.
"Women can fake orgasms but men can fake entire relationships" -Sharon Stone
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Tue, 01-12-2010 - 12:16pm

ah, man. that totally sucks. But, you've taken the high road so far; keep it up. Shake it off and walk on. It's a shame that whoever sent that to you is so evil and mean, but you don't need to let their sickness impact you. I am very proud of you for not responding. Now, you need to set your facebook settings to more private -- no accepting emails from people who are not friends and make your profile totally private from searches, and block all the icky people you suspect may contact you.

God bless and keep the faith, Lovely.

xo
Dee

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Tue, 01-12-2010 - 12:43pm

I agree with Dee. Change your settings on FB immediately. Also, by not reacting your are showing who is the bigger person. Silence is dignified and heard.


Sorry you had this happen. It was cruel and totally uncalled for. Try to shake it off and not stew on it.


((Hugs))

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Tue, 01-12-2010 - 2:17pm

Warning to anyone reading this reply besides Sinking. It has a lot of Bible verses so if that is not your thing you may want to forego reading this reply.


Hi S,


So sorry.


Since they are trying to use verses to bring you down, I want to use a few to lift you up.


Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Tue, 01-12-2010 - 3:11pm

Wow what an awesome post E1!!

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Tue, 01-12-2010 - 4:09pm

Thank you all ....E1

"Women can fake orgasms but men can fake entire relationships" -Sharon Stone
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Tue, 01-12-2010 - 4:46pm

I agree on closing your Facebook account. I had to do the same, not because of W or xAP but because I didn't want to read all the 'wonderful' things that were going on in everyone elses's life while mine was in turmoil.

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Tue, 01-12-2010 - 9:59pm

sinking,

I am so sorry they are doing this! So immature and lowly of them.

First, I think you should not apologize to her. You apologized in the past, right? And if she is not accepting your apology, then what more would an apology do?

Secondly, you can tell them that if they continue on with this, you will get a restraining order on them.

Thirdly, what E1 posted... I have to share my story:

Last year, when I thought I was going to hell for loving a married man. My mother left this small book full of bible proverbs by my bedside. I picked it up, and just opened it randomly but the FIRST page I read was the story E1 described about Magadelena... where the villagers want to stone her for sleeping with a married man, and the come to Jesus asking if they can stone her. And Jesus' says, he who has never sinned let it be who throws the first stone (not in those exact words). So no one stoned her. Jesus' then walked up to her and said he forgives her because everyone sins and as long as she confesses her sins, and rights her wrongs and promises to not do it again, she is forgiven.

So the Lord does have compassion. He DOES forgive.

Don't let them bully you and make you feel anymore guilty!

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Wed, 01-13-2010 - 11:37am
Your story and all of the replies have been so uplifting. I think it should go in the healing section. Many times, people want to view the OW as being the devil herself, so it is easy for them to cast the stones and point the finger ... even when she is trying to do the right thing. Sometimes, you can get beat down and it really sucks that they are trying to intentionally hurt you. Kuddos for being the one to rise above and not respond. How hard is it to do that at times! Im sorry that you had to delete your FB, but I do agree, its the right thing to do. It's hard enough to go through your struggle without the added stress and reminder and input of someone who is trying to bring you down. You need to surround yourself with those who love and support you doing the right thing. Like those of us here!!! Hugs! Just take it a day, or a minute, or a second at a time. I had a conversation with a friend of mine, who's a Christian, and told him about my affair. He didnt have much to say but did say who am i to judge you, we have all fallen short at some time or another. Many Christians have affairs and they continue with their life like nothing is wrong. But, I find comfort in those that have had affairs and turn to God for forgivness, understanding, hope, comfort, etc ... So, i was really glad to hear those versus. I keep the one that says love your neighbor as yourself close by