Sigh

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Sigh
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Tue, 08-10-2010 - 5:44pm
I am a married woman who was not ready for it to be over. He is single. We are in our mid 40's. Things going well for about 5 months, and he was very happy, so was I. I am not sure what happened, I think he was asked about me because in the course of 17 days, he was introduced to someone online by a friend, met her for the first time 9 days later, and the next day told me he was having a moral crisis, told me he wished my marriage was over, wanted me single because he wanted more, and said he did not want to be the cause of my marriage ending, he told me he saved every single message I had ever sent him from the start of the affair. Then he said he needed some time. I flat out asked him to tell me he did not love me. He could not do it, and I already knew the truth, his face did not lie. So after our last meeting, I sent him a message that I loved him and would not be contacting him again (I have not) that was about 2 weeks ago. Three days after the last email, her status shows them in a relationship. I did a little checking, she has been divorced a year, lives about 2 hours from him, has a child, and this is her first relationship after the divorce. Seven days after the status change he is meeting her family. This is so out of character for him, I am beyond figuring out what he is thinking and honestly my ego is a little bruised. We saw each other once or twice a week, and talked daily, sometimes for hours. We always were together in his home. My husband is away often for his job and my kids are older, I have one left at home and when he is gone, I do not see my marriage lasting. Anyway, I am just trying to figure out what is going through this other man's head. I almost can't even be angry about it because it happened so out of the blue and so quickly. I guess I am just looking for another perspective. He and I are not 20 something, and I just do not believe he or I could shut off our feelings on a dime.
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Registered: 08-10-2010
In reply to: smiling_at_u
Tue, 08-10-2010 - 5:45pm
wrong board, sorry
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Registered: 04-15-2010
In reply to: smiling_at_u
Tue, 08-10-2010 - 5:49pm

If your affair is over - we are here for you ... it does not matter the circumstances under which it ended, just that it did.

If you would like our support, please let us know you are reading here, and we'll be there.

Hope to see you back,

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Registered: 07-21-2010
In reply to: smiling_at_u
Tue, 08-10-2010 - 5:59pm

Just want to second what TU said; if your affair is over, this is the place to be.


My xAP went from wanting me all to himself to wanting some else altogether in just a couple weeks.