Smile and Wave Boys.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2012
Smile and Wave Boys.....
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Thu, 11-15-2012 - 6:39pm

That is one of my favorite lines from the penguins in the movie madagascar.  Today that line is irritating me.  Today is day 7 of NC.  Yesterday he saw me crossing the street and from his car he smiled and waved.  Today again I see him in his car and he smiles and waves.  Ok to the normal people that sounds innocent but I am pretty sure its some kind of head game. You see in 4 years of the A we never acknowledged each other in public.  Never a smile a wave or a hello.  NEVER.  Now that its been 7 days and longer than I have ever lasted he is suddenly all about waving hello.  I know this should not bother me and that he will stop eventually but today I find it extremely irritating.  If he thinks I am going to contact him and tell him to stop he is way wrong.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2008
Fri, 11-16-2012 - 11:31am

Hi Beachgirl,

Congrats on a week of NC.

Next time you see him waving, could you think of it as a wave good-bye and not a wave hello? Whatever his intentions, you can framed it anyway you’d like in your mind.  He doesn’t get to control how you interpret his gestures.

Keep putting one foot in front of the other as you carve a new path out of A Ville.

E1

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-24-2011
Fri, 11-16-2012 - 7:05am
Good job on not taking the 'Bait'....this guy is a classic fisher. And yes...he does think you ARE going to contact him...stay strong.
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Community Leader
Registered: 11-04-2012
Thu, 11-15-2012 - 8:34pm

Oh sure, now he's Mr. Smile and wave hello...and now on a daily basis?  What an irritating gnat.  If he's always in the same area, do not look that way.  Look busy doing others things...things that make you look over there, or over there...anywhere but over there where he is.  Or you can look busy shuffling through your purse for your phone to take that oh-so-very-important call...or, carry something that looks like an official document (perhaps a harrassment and/or stalker kinda of document) and be intently flipping through it as you walk.  Tap into the creative side of you Wink...I know you can come up with something.

No waving or smiling back...that'll just encourage him.  Ignore ignore ignore...works the same as delete delete delete.

He really has to get the message that you mean business...and if you end up having to be mean, well then so be it.  All it takes is one cold and nasty 'stay the f away from me' (only if your ignoring tactics fail and he approaches you) for him to get the message.  I like the f word...nothing like a well-placed f to drive home a point..

((hugs))

Clarity

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