So after its over...........
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So after its over...........
| Mon, 01-24-2005 - 5:57pm |
and you find yourself in a new relationship (yes me)...... do you tell the person you are with that you were involved in an affair with a MM? Does it speak to your honesty or morality if you do..... or if you don't? Or is it something you should just keep secret? I'd appreciate your opinions on this even if you havent dealt with it. I'm curious as to how to proceed. Thanks for any and all responses.

Just a personal policy.
"When I meet a man, I ask myself 'Is t
hi kelly
i vote "no". you told me that my relationship with my MM isn't a real relationship so why should yours be? you said you had dated casually during your A so it isn't like he'll wonder if you were underground for 4 years. if he is curious about how your sex life then just tell him you had a special friend. it's not a lie. just my thoughts.
Debbi
My NG asked me point blank if I was unfaithful in my M. I told him the truth. His W had been unfaithful to him. ( his words about his own W were that she was a good person and a good mother and he did not tell his children about her A) All my friends and family knew including my children (my xH told our children and has tried to make me look like the bad guy) so it seemed like he would probably find out anyway. He said that I should look in the mirror and forgive myself, that Jesus has already forgiven me and that I have beat myself up long enough. He said that I needed to let it go for me, for my kids and for our relationship to progress.
He is very wonderful and really 'INTO' me. He also told me later that he really appreciated my honesty.
Survive