So far, So good?

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Registered: 10-03-2004
So far, So good?
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Sat, 03-19-2005 - 11:10am

I did well this past week!

As you know, I cancelled a rendevous with OM. On that particular day, DH and I went out for lunch and a movie. We saw "Diary of a Mad Black woman" It was good! Like I said before, it sure is nice to be out and not have to furtively look around, praying I won't run into anyone I know!

OM really has no idea we are 'off'. Yet. I'm sure he will figure it out after a bit. I know it's not the best way to break it off. But I am Pi$$ed that he would encourage me, however subtly, to leave my marriage when HE was perusing dating sites! I haven't called OM or made any future plans with him. However, I have e-mailed him some jokes. He's part of a group of friends that I send E-jokes to. It's weird and I can't explain why, but I think I'd like to try to stay friends with him. We were friends for many years before we fell into an affair.

I must admit, I still feel a pull to him. Sometimes it gets overwhelming. So any contact other than E-jokes would be a bad idea. I DO have a way of resisting further contact with him: When I start missing him too much, I just visit his profiles on the SEVERAL dating sites he belongs to. That straightens me up rather quickly!

Maybe someday we could have lunch, but that will have to be some time from now. I'd have to have some assurance that he moved on as well...

Hugs to all,
Wish me strength, as I do to everyone here!
Cherry

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Registered: 06-02-2004
Sat, 03-19-2005 - 11:46am

KUDOS to you. You are on the right path...just keep going straight when you reach that fork in the road ;)

Id

 

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 03-19-2005 - 1:29pm

Yes, you did well. You remained focused within your marriage and seeking solutions on your primary relationship.


I liked your method of "reality check" for keeping up NC (checking out the dating sites).


I agree with your idea to drop xMM from your joke distribution list. Just another tug from the past you no longer need.....


Good luck and please keep us posted on your progress.......


cl-nre