So hard...

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Registered: 09-18-2009
So hard...
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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 2:11pm

I know I need to end it now.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: lei5
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 2:18pm

BIG BIG HUGS !!!!


I feel your pain, I think it will get harder for you more emotionally because it is so fresh. time will heal you, but you got to be ready to move on. Whatever you do I don't think you should confess to your husband, I know some woman think they should so they feel better, but I truly don't think you should. You have come to the right spot.


Maybe there is a reason for him not texting you back, be patient and maybe even try to call him a little later just so you can clear your mind if you think that will help.


Take Care


C.G

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Registered: 08-18-2008
In reply to: lei5
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 6:02pm

Hi Lei,


Welcome to EAS.


It's no important what he is thinking or feeling right now. It is only important what you are thinking and feeling and what you want.


If you want to end it then you are on the right board. We preach NC (no contact) here to end A's. That means no texting/emailing/calling.


It's difficult but very necessary for completely ending things.


Please stay and read. The Healing Library near the bottom of the main EAS page is great place to start. It will help explain why NC is the way to end an A.


Many think their situation is unique or different but I believe if you stay and read, you will see that A's are more alike than different.


No use beating yourself up. You cannot change what you did yesterday or Saturday but you can change what you are going to do today.


Much love and big hugs,

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 10-12-2009
In reply to: lei5
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 7:08pm

lei5


First...don't focus on labeling yourself because of an action or actions.