So how do you get past the cringe worthy things you did during the A?

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Registered: 05-16-2011
So how do you get past the cringe worthy things you did during the A?
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Thu, 06-02-2011 - 7:12pm

I am struggling to let go of the things I did during the A. The emotional neediness I displayed (the many texts and calls I made as he wasn't replying), the fact that he felt stalked on his fb when I mentioned I looked at his friend list and asked him who were his closest friends (I could only see his profile and friend list as we were not fb friends but boy was I jealous his friends got to be in his real life) and when he asked me how I could see his profile page as it is set to private so therefore won't show up on search, I told him I went to his mums page first and then went from there. I could see he was taken aback and that night he completely privatised his account so only the photo could be seen. Urggh I feel embarrased just writing it out here. There was so much more I did that is cringe worthy and I know these are the things that have made it easy for him to walk away when I ended it.

I know I shouldn't care that those are the things he will remember about me when he thinks of the A (if he ever does) but it does bog me down in the regrets and makes it hard for me to move on as I want so desperately for him to know that is not who I really am and my behaviour has been so out of character. (But no I won't break no contact just to prove something to him) So any advice please would be great.

The core of who you are is not always obvious to everyone. But to believe what others may believe of you can cause you to deny yourself, the wonders, of who you really are.

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Registered: 07-24-2005

OMG...I have a list of past-now-cringe-worthy behavior you wouldn't believe...and still to this day, I cringe and shudder.


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Registered: 04-20-2009

Ironically, breaking NC to prove to him that you're not pathetic... well, I don't even have to point that out, do I?

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Registered: 03-24-2011

While I do not have any advise or ideas I can totally relate!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
I am hoping that someone with that better mind could find that thread and move it up. I could use a good laugh :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009

Clarity, do you remeber that one?

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Registered: 01-24-2011

RTMO - As I was reading

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Registered: 05-16-2011

Thankyou everyone. I actually have a huge smile on my face.

Yeah Dee, I am holding out lol. Those were the least embarrassing!

Clarity I would love to see that thread, so hopefully it can be found.

Have a nice night or day (depending on where you are), you have all made my day!

The core of who you are is not always obvious to everyone. But to believe what others may believe of you can cause you to deny yourself, the wonders, of who you really are.
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Registered: 05-16-2011

Thanks Katniss. I really would not have been able to do it without the support of the people on this forum. You and the other lovely ladies on here have truly been a Godsend. Thankyou all. x

The core of who you are is not always obvious to everyone. But to believe what others may believe of you can cause you to deny yourself, the wonders, of who you really are.
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Registered: 07-24-2005
I don't think I was hanging out for that one, Dee, but I'd love to read it. I'm figuring you are not having much luck because it was an hour ago that you said "I have to go find it now." Unless, I am misinterpreting 'now' :D

I really hate this new format. It used to be so easy to look up past threads.

xo

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Registered: 07-24-2005

Oh, I see it now.


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