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So many questions answered
| Fri, 03-12-2004 - 10:16pm |
I picked up a book at the library today that has answers to so many of the questions I have had since getting involved in and ending an A. I would recommend this book to anyone no matter what type of affair you were in. It is really helping me understand the big question of WHY. Why I had an affair, why the type of affair, why was his thinking so different than mine in the affair and ending of it, why was is so hard to just let it go. Why, why, why? Lots of questions answered and I'm only about half way through it. I wish I had known about this book a few months ago. But then again, maybe I wasn't ready for it then.
It's titled: Tempted Women, The Passions, Perils and Agonies of Female Infidelity, written by Carol Botwin. It was published 10 years ago, but the info is still very helpful.
I just wanted to share this information in case anyone is interested.

Jazzdiva
Well, I have finished the book and what is so amazing to me is that even though I felt like my A was so different, they really are all so much alike. I fell for the typical workplace, spend alot of time together, blah, blah,blah. My A was so stereotypical that the book could have had my name in it. When I was the A, I sure didn't see it.
As for going to the library incognito, I did feel really odd checking out the book. We have self-checkout at our library so that helped. I really hope I don't know anyone that works there.
I did sort of laugh about this, I had a different book on reserve titled After the Affair, which from what I understand is probably more for a BS. But, I had heard on another board that there is a section that discusses generational infidelity. My father cheated on my mother and I wanted to see how that played a role in my infidelity. So I go up to the counter to get my reserve, the librarian just looks at me with this sad face and sets the book on the counter upside down so others can't see the title. I didn't say anything, but I had the feeling she thought my H was the one cheating. I almost wanted to tell her not to worry about me because I'm the one who cheated. I'm sure my face was as red as a tomato and I got out of there as quickly as I could.
Good luck finding the book.