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| Mon, 05-24-2010 - 10:22am |
Good Morning Ladies!
Been reading many posts here the last few days about finger pointing, forgiveness, unanswered prayers, gratefulness, and acceptance. It never ceases to amaze me that I learn each

Dear Healing,
What a beautiful, yet painfully honest
~Iddy~
THANK YOU IDDY!
I appreciate your words and honesty. I have a LONG way to go and am painfully aware of that. 84 days is still definitely newbie territory! I honestly feel like I should be further along in this process. I remember reading Jane's post around this time and she was (or at east sounded) so strong and so on her way to mental health and well being! I am not there and I will certainly continue to post and gain perspective and wisdom. This has become a life line of sorts for me and when I am having bad moments I take solice (sp?) in the fact that I am not alone.
The forgiveness thing though... I am definitely well aware that it needs to be done, towards him as much as me. He is no more to blame for this than I am. That is a hard pill to swallow, but I know the truth in it. Thank you again, you are truly an amazing woman. Have a great Monday! It is a good one... since it is a holiday!!!
Yes, you have a long way to go but the good news, Healing, is that you are only 6 days away from earning your Tweener Wings so no pressure here, but
~Iddy~
Dear Healing,
I would like to thank you too for the beautiful and inspiring post! I can't wait until we are celebrating your tweener wings. You bring so much to this board - your insight and wisdom, struggles and authenticity are such gifts.
TU.
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
Thanks TU! I feel the same way about your posts!!! Am I wrong assuming you were longer along in NC and had to start over?
Thanks!
Yes I broke NC twice ... once when he said that he was leaving W, had a planned Dday and was out looking for places to live, then changed his mind, and the second time was when he sent me an s.o.s. message after a serious incident and i was fool enough to respond.
Against his 'wishes', I initiated NC each time.
Took me a while to learn my lessons - but I think once you REALLY do, you move on without looking back. Also, once my H moved out (almost a year ago) - the affair fog started to thin immediately, so I got into therapy and started working the work to end it. I want to reconcile with my H more than anything, and I want to do it knowing I have done the work needed to make our home an emotionally safe place for him to be again. I knew ending it would be a process, and I knew I needed to get things in place to assist me to finally succeed.
I got better ending each attempt I made ...
I hope you have an amazing week too! At least we know it is going to end with you in wings!
TU.
LC/NC since April 14, 2010
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou