So NOT struggling...old post

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So NOT struggling...old post
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Fri, 11-05-2010 - 6:25am

Hi everyone.

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 7:43am

Hey, ((Vic)))

I caught it right away that your old thread was bumped up by accident. Ironically though, it did help a couple of our enders, so it only goes to show the impact our words may have on someone.

Dippy (my Xmm) has been out of town since Wednesday and it's unbelievable how good I have felt these last few days. Even though we are wwwaaayyyy over, just his daily presense "obviously" is still affecting me on some level that I am unaware of because when he is gone, I just "physically" feel better.

So, to all of you who may miss your XAPs, please consider yourself lucky that you are able to heal and move forward.

Nice to see that you still peak in, Vic. We miss your words of wisdom around here, but life does go on,,,,,Ob-La-Di, Ob-La-Da!

((Hugs))

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 03-29-2009
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 10:47pm

Victory,

What is this, April Fool's day???

Seeing the "struggling" post the other day simply stunned me---i totally did not catch the date and connect the dots as Iddy did (oh the amazing power of the yellow hat)

silence is eloquent, silence is dignified, silence is heard. ...
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Registered: 10-16-2010
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 11:40pm

Hi Victory!

Its so great you have found infifference>

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Sat, 11-06-2010 - 9:06am

Melinda,

Victory's story is in "A place for success stories" in the Healing Library. Give it a read. I was here through her entire ordeal and saw how much she struggled, but she kept at it, posted continuously, and worked very hard on herself. You can read all about her journey by clicking on her moniker. It will bring up all of her posts.

You will get there, honey. It takes time and a lot of hard work. I would suggest counseling too, if you haven't gone that route yet.

(((Hugs)))

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 10-16-2010
Sat, 11-06-2010 - 2:51pm

CL-iddy (and Vicky!_ thank you soooo much...I am having a rough day emotionally following last nite so I will read V's story in the healing library!

as for counseling yep i am in it;; right now i am doing EMDR fro family of origin stuff....it's not easy but so worth it!

i have projected, obviously, onto my ex MM and his W crap which is all mine....they are not my mother and father but you'd think so by the way i acted out the A repeating a very old story ad nauseum......

knowledge, alone. doesnt make the pain go away ...i wish it did!... but at least i now know how to NOT make the pain much worse