so sad

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Registered: 07-20-2010
so sad
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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 1:08pm
I am so sad!!!! Crying off and on. It has been a month since he disappeared, shouldn't it be better? I feel like I will never be happy again. I am fighting contacting him. At such a low point.
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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: willow09
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 1:36pm

Hang in there Willow. Don't call him - it will only make it worse. Do what you can to distract yourself, OK? I'm not doing that great either today.

Bodhi

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Registered: 07-20-2010
In reply to: willow09
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 1:44pm
Thanks bodhi. I am sorry your not doing well either. I just wonder is it easier for them, it must be.
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Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: willow09
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 1:49pm

Willow -

I fall into that trap a lot too - thinking it's easier for them. Truth is, we don't know. We can't speculate. Focus on you and I'm trying to pull it together right now too. Just don't throw yourself back to square one by contacting him. Don't give him the satisfaction of having you still on the hook.

Bodhi

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Registered: 02-02-2010
In reply to: willow09
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 6:58pm

Willow- While a month out is HUGE, it is still VERY early in this journey. You didn't get into this overnight and it won't pass overnight. I had a real turning point at 3 months, but even almost 6 months out, I still have those moments. Just hang in there. Learn to weather through this downs. As my good friend New Season says, it's just another growth spurt. We experience this pain to grow and learn.

Hugs.

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
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Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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In reply to: willow09
Sun, 07-25-2010 - 12:50pm

Hi Willow :)


It's true, one month out is not a long time out...and this ending business is as much a rollercoaster ride of emotions as was the affair itself.


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Registered: 02-25-2010
In reply to: willow09
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 7:02am

Hi Willow,


A month out is awesome.... keep going, i am only day 16 but even that seemed a long way off 2 weeks ago!!


i have had a couple of REALLY down days and they

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Registered: 07-20-2010
In reply to: willow09
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 9:51am

Thanks for the support. But I am only 2 days behind you on NC. It has been a month since he disappeared. But the last time I contacted him was July 8.

I also have two teenagers. So I know what you mean by the fighting.
I hope you stay strong also.

I am seeing more and more they are not worth it. If you get a chance read what a wimp and see what happened to me last night. It kind of made me realize what kind of person he is.