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So why would H want to b friends w/him?
| Mon, 02-22-2010 - 5:13pm |
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Edited 3/13/2010 3:56 pm ET by hazelrose2009
Edited 3/13/2010 3:56 pm ET by hazelrose2009

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Hazel,
Two things immediately ran through my mind and I could be wrong about both of them, but here are my thoughts.
1) Your H really likes the guy and perhaps does not have many friends with similar interests. He may still want to hang out with him but understands that you being around him is not healthy.
2) Your H may be smarter than we are giving him credit for and may try to get XMM to open up on how he feels about you. I know, this one sounds scary, but he may be just wanting to protect the woman he loves. I hope I am wrong on this one but men can be silently clever when they want to know something, KWIM?
I think what would be best is to ask your H point blank why he hung out with Xmm today and watch the body language when he responds. If he is fidgety and can't look you in the eye, he may have an agenda.
JMHO,
~ Iddy~
~Iddy~
hazel~
I wrote to you some thoughts yesterday about coming clean with your husband, so you know how I feel in that area. And remember, that's simply how I, personally, feel, and it may not be necessarily right in anyone else's situation.
If you want to talk with me further about that, please feel free to email me - I'd be more than happy to elaborate my thoughts or answer any questions you might have :)
If at all possible, you're going to have to separate yourself from any involvement your H has with xAP. If they're going to continue working out together, so be it. Remove 'yourself' from the situation. Don't be around when they go and come back. Don't discuss it, don't ask about it. Period. Personally, I think it's absolutely, disgustingly deceitful that xAP can look your H in the eye and continue to spend time with him. HOW CAN HE DO THAT???!!! And your poor H is oblivious to what has been going on...
Anyway, sorry for bringing so much emotion into this, but hazel~ I think you're absolutely right - this is such a sticky situation and you're going to have to start gaining some clarity and deal with this once and for all. Start living a life without lies, deceit and pain. You can do this, you really can. You HAVE to...you owe it to your H.
Be Strong xx
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Edited 3/13/2010 3:57 pm ET by hazelrose2009
Edited 3/13/2010 3:57 pm ET by hazelrose2009
BeStrong~
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Sorry, Hazel, but I have to agree with this. Your Xmm is a piece of work, is all I can say. Here he is being buddy, buddy to your unsuspecting H, all the while knowing he was stabbing him in the back. It is so twisted and makes me froth at the mouth. No, I am not a vampire by night. ;-)
Such a sad mess,
~ Iddy~
~Iddy~
Edited 3/13/2010 3:58 pm ET by hazelrose2009
BIG hugs to you HR. I know this hasn't been easy for you.
Hang in there, honey.
~ Iddy~
~Iddy~
Oh, Iddy. That means the world to me. Tears are welling up now. It just helps that somebody KNOWS, ya know?
Thank you :)
Hazel -
I just wanted to extend you a lot of support and some big hugs.
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