Some input would be great....

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Registered: 04-23-2009
Some input would be great....
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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 9:31am

I’ve posted here before, and even though MM and I have slept together only once (back in June) our “A” has been over I guess you could say; we had a big fight in July, said some words (through email) and then a couple weeks later I had to be out for a while, so then I was out for about 2 weeks, when I came back he was so-so sweet to me, extra nice, then we started flirting slowly again for example, he said “on my way legs”, another time he was focusing on a couple body parts and it was so obvious to me at the way he was looking at me, he walked past me the other day and just brushed up against my skirt, little things as you can see, BUT I’m no fool. So fast forward to last week, he “owed me” for favors I’ve done for him through out the past few months, and we had talked about how he owed me, so I came up with an idea and it was for him to take me on a bike ride, I’ve never been and thought how fun that would be!!! So I emailed him, he replied back and said “sounds good, we will go Friday at lunch” I was so excited, to make a long story short, he couldn’t take me, due to being busy with having been out of town all week, he emailed me said don’t be mad, I’ll take you this Friday if you still want to go….I left something in your box to make up for it…..he gave me a $50 gift card????? This is NOT like him, he has NEVER given me anything in my life, and this was totally out of character for him, I’m baffled….confused…..and really have no idea what to make of this.


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Registered: 09-25-2006
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 9:37am

I suspect the $50 is him

Onward and upward.
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Registered: 03-08-2009
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 10:16am

Hi, I honestly think you both know where this is heading right? He couldn't make the 'bike ride' you suggested but he is still keeping you dangling with a gift card, if you REALLY think about it it's not flattering. To quote some wise advice given on this board 'don't make someone a priority who's only prepared to make you an option'. I don't mean to sound harsh but have learned from my own painful experience.

Do you want to end this? If so, go complete NC its the only way out.

Roxy




Edited 9/21/2009 10:19 am ET by roxygirl2009
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 10:17am
Here's my input...you do not have a legitimate relationship with this person and it would be a waste of your time to try and figure him out.
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Registered: 10-03-2008
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 10:50am

If you've never been on a bike ride, I suggest you get a bike and go on one - by yourself or with one of your friends - one of your real friends - not this man who belongs to someone else.

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Registered: 04-23-2009
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 11:44am

Thanks for all the input, no worries, I don’t take anything “harsh”, I was just looking for some insight because yes, I was/am baffled by the gesture. So, looks like, what he is trying to do, is sleep with me again, get on my good side and “go there” again, at least that is kind of what I’m reading out of the replies here.


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Registered: 09-25-2006
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 12:06pm

As for planning another bike ride, no – I told him I won’t ask again, and if he wants to take me, that is fine but I won’t ask or plan it again.


Onward and upward.
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Registered: 08-18-2008
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 12:10pm
Hi LIGA,

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2009
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 12:19pm

LIGA -


I don't want to seem harsh or in any way judgmental, however . . .

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Registered: 04-23-2009
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 5:00pm

Hi all ~


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Registered: 05-30-2006
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 5:25pm

Here is some more tough love. When you

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