Somebody That I Used to Know

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Somebody That I Used to Know
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Tue, 04-24-2012 - 11:22pm

That song is very powerful to me right now.

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Registered: 11-26-2009
Wed, 04-25-2012 - 4:16am

Hi JJ

Yep, I have heard the song, and had it on repeat on my phone for the first many weeks of my ending.

I totally get you. But I can't listen to it anymore - It brings me back too many memories of when it ended and how painful it was. When I'm driving the car, I have my finger constantly on Skip - my brain can make practially any song relate to my A. And to be honest my brain is getting so tried of thinking about my A, and xAP it forgets to sometimes.... which is a little progress from my side.

I have

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Wed, 04-25-2012 - 6:21am
Totally with you on this one Jane. I watched the YouTube clip the other day and could just hear my xAP's bitterness and bewilderment at my decision to cut him out of my life rather than "be friends" as he wanted. Yet he was the one who always said that when the A ended he would "delete me from his mental memory stick ad if I never existed". Go figure.
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Registered: 01-24-2011
Wed, 04-25-2012 - 6:24am
PS isn't Kimbra an amazing singer! So proud that she's just a kid from New Zealand.
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Wed, 04-25-2012 - 9:38am

I love this song too...

I can't relate many of the words to my situations, but the main chorus line gets me: "But you didn't have to cut me off..." I can't help but sing along loudly when it's on in the car. I holler that line to my xAP and then tell myself, "well, yes, you DID have to cut me off, that was the best thing you ever did for me!"

The song makes me a little sad for my exMM friend, though (recent ended "EA" partner). I really did cut him off like "it never happened and that we were nothing." From daily all day chatting and sharing to "I can't be your friend" and radio silence. I can imagine he is singing this to me ... and I get kind of sad. But again, I did the right thing for us both by letting his friendship go. It was borderline.

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Registered: 06-24-2011
Wed, 04-25-2012 - 10:16am
I have not heard the song.

But my xAP too, although he says he "understands", can't really fathom why I can't make nice and be friends.
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Registered: 06-24-2011
Wed, 04-25-2012 - 10:53am
Wow. I should not have listened to that song.
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Registered: 02-02-2011
Wed, 04-25-2012 - 1:36pm
Set fire to the rain is another
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Registered: 03-22-2011
Wed, 04-25-2012 - 2:23pm

It's ironic or maybe just that we are hurting so much that we look for things that we can relate to.

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Registered: 04-16-2012
Wed, 04-25-2012 - 8:55pm

Love, love, love this song! I loved it before AP became xAP, but now I listen to it in a whole new light. I love Kimbra's facial expressions in the video.

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Registered: 08-18-2011
Wed, 04-25-2012 - 9:39pm
Shadow Days, John Mayer. That's what xap could sing ... he actually told me before we ended, that he was tired of living in the shadows ...

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