Is someone trying to tell me something??

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Registered: 10-05-2004
Is someone trying to tell me something??
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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 12:26am
I have to preface this message by saying I am a big believer in fate and karma. If you read any of my previous posts, you know xOM and I have tried being "friends" but really what he wants is a BC. This afternoon, after reading a post by someone else - I decided I was done. I was tired of the way he was treating me. I was tired of allowing myself to be treated like crap and emailed xOM and told him I wanted NC and to please respect my decision and not email or call me again....

Ok - so by my "name" you all know I am an actress. Well, to make a long story short - tonight, I 'accidentally' got cast in a role where the lead character who plays opposite me (in a 2 person show) has the same name as my xOM (I didn't audition for the part and knew nothing of the show - the director just called and asked if I would do it) - which would be fine, except throughout the show I am reading love letters to him! I know I am a professional and need to just look at this as an opportunity to show what a great actress I am...but inside, I am dying. I don't know how I am going to pull off this part night after night without going insane! HELP!

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 7:07am
hi there Actress--

Wow--that is pretty freaky! I would guess that none of us has ever been in a situation like that before. You are probably breaking new ground.

If I was the one acting that part I would approach it as if this other character was my the NEW man in my life who just happened to have the same name as the XOM. You have probably thought of that, but you will really have to focus on that being the reality. Part acting, part thinking "Isn't it weird that this guy has the same name as my last love interest." I guess you will just need to pour yourself into the role of "loving" this new guy.

(but I sure hope he isn't really cute -- I'd hate to see you fall for him while you are trying to get over the other guy -- you know how that is working so closely with other actors :-)

Good luck, Actress. You can do this! It's somewhat like some of the people on this board who work with their XOMs. And they aren't acting--they have to sit right next to him at a conference room table sometimes. At least you don't have to be in the same room with yours.

Good luck--break a leg :-)

(and congratulations on getting the part)

Meg

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 9:02am
Diva

If someone is trying to tell you something maybe there trying to tell you what you thought you had with XOM was just PLAY ACTING on BOTH YOUR PARTS and nothing more, prepared scripts, he had his and acted them out to get his BOOTY CALL and you ad yours to get your EGO BOOST.

NO REAL LOVE ON EITHER SIDE OF THE PLAY JUST PLAY ACTING FOR THE PAY OFF ON BOTH SIDES.

JMJO

Free

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Registered: 10-05-2004
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 11:14am
Free -

While I appreciate your response, I disagree with you completely. I DID have true feelings for xOM - and I believe he had true feelings for me. I know things are over now and I am working on moving past it. Feelings change - people change. I don't believe that every A is just about sex - mine wasn't - nor was it about an ego boost.

I don't know what your situation was, and I wouldn't judge it and claim to know what it was or wasn't about. As for my situation - I was there - I know what it was.

Diva

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 9:28pm
Diva

Good honest healthy love is not and cannot be based on LIES, affairs are based on a lot of things but real healthy love is rarely one of them, a term used by some is an affair bubble or affair fog , when your in it your thinking is skewed people looking at your situation from a distance may see it more clearly then you do because there preceptions are not clouded by the emotions envolved.

I do not ask you to accept my word on this, if you get free and clear from this soon then in a year or so revisit the subject take a cold none emotional look at it and see what you think then, I can tell you that your in for an eye opening experience.

No hard feelings

Free