Something I want to say

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2010
Something I want to say
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Sat, 10-30-2010 - 7:24am
I have been lurking since August. I am pleased to see the compassion extended to people like Alice and others who have tried and failed and try again.
I have been holding onto something and I am feeling depressed about a few things and I need to learn to let it out and that includes this message.
Firstly, when I was struggling I was told such things as 'pull your big man pants up'. I would have thought it inappropriate to tell a woman on here to pull up her big woman panties. Id regard it as a very insulting thing to say to a woman in any circumstances
Secondly, I think that as a man I was in some danger of other people on here having trouble with transference ( see ref to big boy pants). I am not the XAP of any of you and don't want to be the target of your own venom
Thirdly, one or two men do visit this board, but don't hang around. You might want to consider if theres a reason for that ( I genuinely don't know)
Finally, if you think men and women are from different planets and it helps you get over an A, good for you. I can confirm as an ordinary man that some of us are sensitive, disgusted at our lapse in morals, regretful and vulnerable. It's a perspective that might help some of you, perhaps not others.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2010
Sun, 10-31-2010 - 2:05pm
Ditto for me!!!

I learned from the VERY best. Each and every one of you who walked this path before me and stayed around here to tell about the *dangers* and amazing views up ahead.

Please keep on keeping it REAL.

TU.
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Registered: 07-24-2005
Sun, 10-31-2010 - 3:03pm
GROUP (((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))):)


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2010
Sun, 10-31-2010 - 6:34pm

I am in the group hug!! I did not chime in cuz you and the rest of the gang covered things so well. I am thinking/hoping he (Rob) was having a bad day.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2006
Sun, 10-31-2010 - 7:18pm

So Rob popped in......hit it......whined......left.

Very affair(ish)

Onward and upward.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2010
Sun, 10-31-2010 - 8:38pm
Lol..so affairish. My exAp used to hit it, I whined n then he always left.
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2010
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 4:50am
I am sorry. It was mis-directed anger as I am angry with myself of course. You have all been supportive of me and each other. I don't say this to attract warm comments. I'd like to draw a line under it, if that's ok. And I will lurk again and read and try to learn.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2010
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 4:50am
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 10:44am
Rob, you are welcome back here whenever you are ready. Our door is always open.

((Hugs))
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2010
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 1:25pm
I was pleasantly surprised to see an apology from Rob in my mailbox this morning - I concur, come back when you are *ready*

TU.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2010
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 1:47pm

Congrats for taking responsibility where you see appropriate Rob.

I hope we can provide support in the future,

Michelle

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010