Something I want to say

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Registered: 08-21-2010
Something I want to say
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Sat, 10-30-2010 - 7:24am
I have been lurking since August. I am pleased to see the compassion extended to people like Alice and others who have tried and failed and try again.
I have been holding onto something and I am feeling depressed about a few things and I need to learn to let it out and that includes this message.
Firstly, when I was struggling I was told such things as 'pull your big man pants up'. I would have thought it inappropriate to tell a woman on here to pull up her big woman panties. Id regard it as a very insulting thing to say to a woman in any circumstances
Secondly, I think that as a man I was in some danger of other people on here having trouble with transference ( see ref to big boy pants). I am not the XAP of any of you and don't want to be the target of your own venom
Thirdly, one or two men do visit this board, but don't hang around. You might want to consider if theres a reason for that ( I genuinely don't know)
Finally, if you think men and women are from different planets and it helps you get over an A, good for you. I can confirm as an ordinary man that some of us are sensitive, disgusted at our lapse in morals, regretful and vulnerable. It's a perspective that might help some of you, perhaps not others.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2010
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 2:03pm
Me too....he did the right thing and I responded with exactly what everyone else thought or would think...welcome back anytime...we all have a little misdirected oops every once in a while...no biggie
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 01-23-2010
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 2:09pm
robspierre, I too had to have the life sucked totally out of me before I took back my dignity and decided to live an honest and faithful life. The longer you stay in, the worse you are tearing away at the very fabric of who you are. An A will beat you down to nothing and take away your soul. You really don't have to stay in that dark place of anger and denial. You can set yourself free and become of man of honor and integrity who lives a wholesome, true life.
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Registered: 04-20-2009
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 2:15pm

Me, too!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 6:10pm

Thank you, Rob :)

You've made us


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