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| Tue, 01-27-2004 - 9:45pm |
I haven't been around on this board in a while. Xmm and I are co-workers and have to maintain a professional relationship. Although we have very limited contact we are usually nice to each other. Lately he has been giving me the cold shoulder, so I cautiously asked him what was up.
So he mentions that he's been feeling a lot of raw emotions lately. I really was under the impression that he was able to just completely get over the whole thing and that I am the only one that was effected emotionally. So I was really surprised to hear that he really was affected a lot by it, too.
Not that I want him to feel really bad about the whole thing. I'm just glad I'm not the only one feeling it.

I'm sure you're past that slippery slope vulnerability but just remember how easy it was to get into the mess in the first place.
That aside, it is comforting to know you aren't the only one who grieved this loss.
LOL! I bet he IS feeling a lot of raw emotion. It's tough. Glad I read your post, though.. I know the xOW probably feels I'm giving her the cold shoulder, too. I really just want the best for her. I'm sure your xmm does, too.
Sounds like you're moving past the affair, including being empathetic WITHOUT emmeshment occuring.
I think if you continue to "stay your course", keep the contact to work-related words and actions you'll continue to do just fine.....
jmhoo,
cl-nre