Sooooo sad

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Registered: 03-23-2004
Sooooo sad
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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 12:15am
This is crazy! I wouldn't wish this one anyone..an affair that is. I have been interacting with this guy since 1998. He lives several states away from me so I can't see him much. I have been married for 8 years. So six of these years this guy and I have been involved. I think about him everyday. He is my last thought before I go to bed at night and my first thought when I wake up in the morning. My husband has never suspected and has NO idea. We have three children together so that is why I am still here. The OM has two children and is single. He has been pushing, not in an annoying way, me to leave. I want to be with him more than anything. I can't break my husbands heart though. I haven't wanted to be intimate with him for many years. I am just so sad it's crazy. The OM gave me a time limit when I saw him earlier this month..I have 6 months to either leave or stay. I am glad that he did this for everyone. I just don't know what to do. My husband and I have a pretty good "partnership". We handle the kids and life with ease together. I just worry that if I leave him I may regret it for the kids sake. I am just so confused right now. If I do leave him I am not thinking about jumping right into everything with this other man either. I would keep it long distance and see what happens. I am just so confused. This crap is consuming my day and making it very hard for me to concentrate on my work and my responsibliites for that matter. Someone please help me with somekind of advice! Thanks so much.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: dawnfl03
Wed, 03-24-2004 - 6:55am
leaving your H is too big a decision for you to expect anyone else to answer. You need to think carefully and you are the only person that knows what is right for you. I would suggest some therapy, because a third person who understands the whole picture can give you some important insight to what is happening in your life. A professional is probably your best bet, and maybe you and H can go to counseling together before breaking up your family.

good luck.

Jazzdiva