S.O.S. Slipping

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Registered: 04-15-2010
S.O.S. Slipping
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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 4:22pm

I feel like I should know better, but today I am slipping into feelings of hopelessness, missing & longing.

Today is day 20 LC/NC and I am having such a hard time. I feel the lowest I have felt in a while and I have gone through all the things I usually do when I start getting worried about myself, but I'm at the end of that list - and I am still stuck. I'm so distracted from work that I need to get done, I could just cry )-:

Words of encouragement please ...

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 4:33pm
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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 4:42pm

TU,

Where is that list? I thought you had a list of things exAp did that hurt you. I could have the wrong poster, I am on my phone so I can't do a search. Look at that list if you have not. See if that helps you stop that missing n yearning. If you do not have one, make one. Yeah it may drudge up some pain, but hell, sounds Like you are there anyway. So, make a list. All the times he said or did something that stung. Cancelled at the last minute? Didn't call or respnd to a txt or email? He was too busy? Was not there when u truly needed him emotionally? Make a list. We could all make em. Mine is rather extensive.

Then when u have made and read over that list. Ask what you are missing?
Best case scenario, what would u have gotten?
Think deeply.

I had days like yours n Iddy or E-1 would copy n paste something I wrote about the devil I dealt with. They reminded me of what I need not miss.

Gotta go now. Sorry u r hurting. We all BTDT. Days like this will come. How are u going to try n work thru this one to equip u for the next.

Cyber hugs...I will be back to check on ya.

Luvin

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 4:58pm

Sometimes the words of encouragement you have shared with others are most powerful when repeated back to yourself.


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Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 5:10pm

TU,


You are so wise to come here when you're feeling like you're slipping.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 05-04-2010 - 5:16pm

You are approaching the 3 week

   ~Iddy~ 


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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 6:48pm

Dear EAS sister - thank you.


After I wrote this post, I went for a nap.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 7:18pm

Hang in there sweets. It just must be a tough day across the board (pun DEFINATELY intended) cuz Im singing the blues too. I thought the highs and lows would end when we went LC/NC but the those bad days still nip at my heels.


I cant offer too much since Im in a slump myself today, it would be about as useful as a home decorating class at a homeless shelter. But I will share my cyber shoulder for you to cry on. Those bad days are just inevitable, but have you noticed they dont come as often?? I have. I just havent really thought about it because Im wanting to speed up the healing more than this journey will allow.


I always do, but tonight I will say an extra prayer for all of us having a hard day today.


Love,


GMLB


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Tue, 05-04-2010 - 7:24pm

Yay, ((TU))


I nap can do wonders. ;-) So can finding messages from people who care about you as we do. Thank you for coming back and letting us know you rode the wave, may be a little nauseaus from the ride, but nevertheless you are with us again, rested and ready to continue on

   ~Iddy~ 


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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 8:57am

TU-


I don't think anything can be more powerful than E1's post in which she used your own words to show you that you can do this. These crazy emotions that bombard us as we make a break for it, can really do a number on us. They jumble us up and make us second guess everything. But, seeing your own clarity glaring back at you from the screen had to be powerful. There certainly isn't a magic cure for those down times, but you know, as well as I, that the cure is NC. And Iddy once said, and I will never forget it, that even when we are feeling down, our inner self is still churning away to produce a better us. Those down times are not steps backwards, rather they are a part of the journey forward. Know that with each down, there will be an up as long as you ride it out and allow it to come.


I know that you will make it TU. I've watched you transform before my eyes daily and strength resonates with each new post you compose to another ender. You

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Wed, 05-05-2010 - 12:47pm

Everyone,

TU, I told you E-1 or Iddy will copy and paste on ya, those ladies know how to naviagte ivillage like champs. I knew they might get ya...

I have to say Vets, cool to see you doing this to a newbie. Make me reflect on how how much I have grown. How much I have evolved. How much less pain I am in. How far I have come.

TU, use me to prove you can do this. I even have that separated H thing in common with you. LC is our only difference. Which makes you a gladiator in my world. One day soon you will be copying and pasting to a newbie and getting her thru one of her tough days. Just like the gang did for me when I was here at your current stage. This place is amazing.

Hope today is better

Luvin

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida