Start IC tomorrow!

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Start IC tomorrow!
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 12:22pm

Hi, Everyone.


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Registered: 07-03-2011
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 12:34pm
Dee, You are the one person here who makes me want to be more honest about my vulnerabilities and you are the one who told me to not be afraid to reach out. I can be very stubborn and stoic and you called me on it immediately. I am saying this because I want you to remember just how insightful and sensitive you are. I know what you mean about being afraid of not liking the T but from what I know of you here, you will find a way to take what wisdom he has to offer and accept whatever limitations he has. You have given so much of yourself here. I wish you much love, comfort and strength as you take this time for yoirself. And here is a long overdue (((Squeeze))). Take good care.
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Registered: 06-08-2010
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 2:15pm
My dearest Dee,
So good to hear you are doing this!! Yes, it will be tough to dump it all out to some stranger in RL, but I hope that the T will be an experience that helps you in your continued growth to becoming a stronger you. You are an amazing gift to all of us here. I get that you miss Iddy really had a gift in her. She will always be in your heart and you know what? I know she would be incredibly proud of what you are doing. I shouldn't say "would be"...I believe she IS!!!! So, as your (not-so-fearless) leader and your fellow cyber-buddy who you have so graciously given excellent advice and support to, I wish you the best in this new adventure! I have missed you, please keep us informed of how tomorrow goes for ya. ;)

Love and many (((((HUGS)))))

Hearts <3
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Registered: 06-22-2011
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 2:16pm
Hi sweet Dee!

I'm so happy you are taking this step. Yay! It might take a while to see results as the first few times just seem like you talking while the T sits there like a bump on a log, but it gets better. Also I know you're scared you won't like the T but if you don't, just remember there are other Ts in the sea. Dump him and find someone who is a better fit.

YOU rock it so hard and by being vulnerable and saying you still have some things to work thru you are giving others the permission to do the same.
I can't wait to hear how it goes.

Much love,
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Registered: 08-18-2011
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 5:00pm
Dee, I'm excited for you! I think you'll really enjoy the process. I know during the week I 'save' things for T. I write notes to refer to, sometimes I scribble so furiously I can't read them in the session!!

I can't wait for the update!

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Registered: 11-13-2011
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 5:06pm
Great news dee! Don't be afraid...say it all...throw it out there! It is the perfect forum and very liberating. He won't be shocked and something tells me you may teach him something. At the very least you will say something humorous and both laugh. So happy for you that you now have the opportunity to go. And if you don't love him, there are a million others to chose from. Good luck and keep us posted!
Hopeful xo
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Registered: 06-24-2011
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 6:05pm
Sweet Dee ((((hugs))))
You are such a great example. I *love* that you can admit to being still vulnerable and flawed.

Because we all are babe.

But only the strong ones can admit it.

I hope you find a T that rocks even half as much as you do and it will be great :)
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Registered: 07-24-2005
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 9:43pm

I think this is great, Dee.

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 3:33am
So proud of you Dee. (Although you are messin' with my "I don't need IC to get over the A cos Dee hasn't had it and she rocks" theory of life)

How did it go?

Kat x
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Registered: 04-23-2010
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 7:44am

Remember, if they are experienced, they have heard it all before.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

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Registered: 11-26-2009
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 1:47pm
Good for you DEE! I wish I had the guts and the cash to start some IC - I hope it goes well... Might inspire me to save my pennies too.

Looking forward to hearing how it went!

Every recovery is a kind of rebirth