Still crazy after all this time...
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Still crazy after all this time...
| Thu, 10-22-2009 - 9:55pm |
Hello to all. I was once a frequent visitor here, but stopped dropping by as a way of putting the A & the entire experience behind me. I was involved with my boss;(a miserable career decision) a R which went on for far longer than I wanted to admit, even to myself.
Recently, a dear friend who

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Miamore :)
I'm sorry to hear of your struggle due to
hello to both of you,
So happy to see familiar names!!!
My affair ended in november of 2007, my xap ended it and it took me for ever to get over the fact he ended the affair. of course now i m happy he did for so many reasons, I finally got my life back:) so good to not thing about him anymore.
I graduated this past may and now I am working on my teaching certificate, i m keeping busy.
my marriage is not going that good but i do not want to lose hope in making it better I might one day( lose hope) and if I do leaving would be my best option. I am finally growing up. and now i am able to find my self, and i am able to recognize my needs in order for me to be happy. I do not feel lonely anymore and i do not need a man to make me feel good about my self. i am focusing on God, kids and my work. finally everything is very clear to me, and for the first time in my life i know the path i need to take in life.
all i can say to all who are still struggling in ending their affairs is do not lose hope. keep going and try to focus on what is important to you, life is too short and that we are worth more than what those men can offer us. affairs are only an escape from reality and we need at one point in our lives to grow up and face our realities no matter how bad they are. change what ever you need to change to make life worth living. be strong and live life to the max focus on the people who love and need u, let the people who make u feel good and happy in your life and kick the people who are adding stress to ur life out of it.
Hi Miamore,
I just wanted to thank you for your post. I am in an LC situation too, and it's awful. Thanks for posting.
Hugs
Htgo
Clarity...How nice to see you again. I wasn't sure who would still be here...Thanks for your kind words. Yes, The xAP is a snake. Funny, my EAS buddy and I refer to him that way all the time. It IS a tough job market. I have been in a eager search for quite some time with no results. The worst part is that my job is really good.
Htgo - Hugs to you too. I feel your pain and heartache. It's a small comfort in knowing we are not alone.
I wish you peace....
Mia
Hi Mia
Thank you :) NC truly is the best way to go, LC is torture
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Htgo
Hey
Sounds like you are in Hell. But atleast the PA is over. If that's any small consolation.
You are both single, he says those "wonderful" things about you, but you can't be together.
To say the least he doesn't appear to have much concern for your feelings. I'm wishing you continued strength to get through this. If you really want it too, this will pass.
Muddy Waters
Thank u withclarity!!!
i was o happy to see ur name here on the board of EAS. You inspired me a lot during my down times, i am very thankful to u and to all who were there for me. I am the type who does not give up on life and i keep fighting no matter how painful it is. just lately i started seeing things very clearly for the first time in my life i think those are the signs of growing up. it is never to late to fix what ever is wrong in our lives, escaping from it is the worst thing we can do.
Thank you again
Hello DD&B - Yes, it's hell. Nothing more. Nothing less. I am divorced but I have a BF of 8 yrs. He is also D and has recently started to go "out there" because he said that he was waiting for me and I didn't go to him. This is true. However I never really had any intention of doing that. I know he is wrong for me. I know we would have trouble if we were a real couple. Either way, his dating has brought about this intense jealousy on my part. And then the doubts, and the questions...
WHY DO I EVEN CARE? I ran myself through the ringer for that one. But for the longest time I saw that xAP wasn't with another woman. In my mind -
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