Still dont get it ? what did he mean?
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| Thu, 12-23-2004 - 7:23pm |
I have noticed every day that goes by the pain seems less and less surmountable.
I feel my whole outlook on life has changed and I vowed to myself to be the Wife and Mother that my family deseves. Totally undivided attention is something that I have lacked the last 4 years. My H would say I look like I am a million miles away! And yes I was emotionally.
But the one hurdle that I cant seem to jump over is one of the last conversations MM and I had, actually it was a text msg. I asked him, at least I thought it was a simple question, The question was this, I just wanted to know when did your feelings change for me and why couldnt you just tell me you felt like that? Well I figured he would call me with an explanation, but all I got back from him was a text msg, saying I have no answers!
What the Hell??? He could of at least lied and said May or something but NOOOO I get some lame I have no answers!
Does anyone have any ideas as to what that could mean??? Any understanding in this would help me put this behind me. What the heck does I have No Answers mean? After 4 years I was just looking for some closure but that statement did not help with closure
Thanks for letting me vent Onthegochick

Jazzdiva
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It could be that he truly does not know, he may have kept the relationship going long after it was over out of habit like many married people do, maybe one day he just woke up to the realization that there was nothing there for him anymore, who knows ???
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I'm learning quickly that we don't always get to hear what we want. Recently, I wanted my xmm to respond to a question a certain way...and when he didn't...I got upset. He doesn't know what to say to me...just like I don't know what to say to him. He finally said..."why don't you just imagine that I said the perfect thing"
It actually made me laugh at how silly my question was. Neither of us have any business asking each other any questions at this point. What's the point? There really is no closure except what you make for yourself. Some days I realize this...and other days I don't...I'm workin' on it.
good luck...Crissy
He probably answered with he has no answers because he hasn't given it much thought. He could be like my MM and just ignore problems and drama and go on with his life like nothing is wrong because he doesn't want to think about it.
Be content with your decision, that it was the right thing to do, and give yourself closure.
Take care
Trish