still hurting

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Registered: 05-08-2003
still hurting
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 7:31pm
My 5 month affair just ended 2 weeks ago. I was not in love with him, but was caught up in all the excitement and passion of the affair. We can't have no contact, because he is a police officer who works at my place of employment 1 day a week. I still find myself yearning for that day to hurry and get here. We continue on as if nothing ever happened, but one day we made eye contact and he winked at me, that is a thing between us. I don't know if he realized he did it or not, but I was hoping he did. If he were to ask me to become involved with him again, I would. It was so intense!!!!!! We are both married and neither wants to leave our spouses. We said we could just be friends, but I find myself thinking of him constantly. How long will it last, I know I need to get my life back to normal, but it has been so long since it has been normal, that I don't know if I can. I know that my husband has no idea about this affair, his wife had questioned him a while back. Anyone with advice!!!! Do you think we can continue to work together as if nothing ever happend, or does it make it easier for us to slip into an affair again?
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Registered: 12-28-2003
In reply to: tempted1963
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 11:25pm
Hi Tempted

Working together makes it very hard top keep to the streight road, if you want to get your M back on track (don't kid yourself your husband knows somethings wrong he just does not know what at this point) you or he may have to move to a new school or were ever you work.

Be warned Affairs don't come free if you push your luck the price can be very high.

Make wise decisions

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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: tempted1963
Sat, 02-21-2004 - 4:24am
Tempted,

Hey. I must say, I pretty much second everything mefreenow said. Working together will be REALLY difficult. Since you know how intense the affair was, and how it made you feel at the time, seeing him is only gonna make you wonder if it could be like that again. It'll make it terribly hard to turn off all emotions around him and really devote yourself back to your marriage. As mefreenow said, "Be warned--affairs don't come free. If you push your luck, the price can be very high." Just give it a lot of thought, and if you decide to continue working there, be strong in your convictions. Good luck!