Still Upset
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Still Upset
| Sat, 11-13-2010 - 9:44pm |
Hello everyone, I see by having read many of your posts everyone seems to have the same issues. Hurt and anger. WEll unfortunately I had spoken with my now ex AP and it was because he needed to bring me something back that he promised to do a while ago. Shouldn't have ever bothered but first he could drop it off then he couldn't and I just lost it. I told him hmmm, yup seems to be every one is second to you...now I know why this neither started nor ended well. I don't know, the worst is I miss him. Not like I have nothing to do, TONS, but i still miss him...ugh! How does everyone stop themselves from calling or occupy the mind with something of more substance???

Hello Jadaann,
I am new here.
Hi Jadaan -
SO Awesome! that youre asking that question! You seek answers....You DESIRE to feel better. :)
Isn't it astonishing how just
Michelle,
Thank you for understanding! I have been on my roof painting my attic window, I have done everything almost to full completetion around my house, I don't really have the time to think about the who thing but some how I am still thinking about it and terribly unhappy by bed time. I remember you saying something like all this fighting and we are left if we got the man that is...with a mere man who may to the same to us and he did with us. I often wonder what does he feel? Does he feel any loss or shame? Will he really do what he said and leave? And why the hell do I even care? UGH! I agree yes, have to fell this stuff to move on....I am venting!!! Thank's for letting me!!!!
YOU BETCHA! Superwoman!!!
Geez! On your roof painting your attic window!!!! I feel like SUCH a slacker now! hahaha wow!
You got that 2nd part right darling.....And why the hell do I even care? UGH!
OLD ROMANTIC HABITS DYIN HARD
Ha ha, with all the stuff i DO, I always need an assistant. It's funny because he would help me with lots of that stuff.. I guess that's the part I think about. He had taught me a lot about doing things around my house from tile to plumbing, hard wood flooring, my bushes are beautiful spirals now...I did that this time! But yes thinking about how he conveniently called her his "wife" when trying to prove a point, and calling her by her name when she was screwing up something, and who was she during the times he slept over??? HMMMMM. I can't wait for those winter days I am going to stay in and sleep too I love that I idea...hey no one to answer to! I have always said things happen for a reason, I dated this jerk last year for a while, and because he was such a jerk, I wanted to get away from him fast. This is the time I bought my own house by myself. And then like a goof, I bought a motorcycle and learned to ride this little black ninja. He had bought one too because he could go riding with me.
When I think of how he never even consulted his wife, never thought of the reprocussions of buying what ended up costing him about five grand with gear... just bought the bike and rode it home...you have to wonder, who the hell does he think he is? Those are the things I don't want...I think I deserve more
It's sounds like your Xap is very impulsive, but in a way we all were, to enter into this kind of mess.
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Well, yes, but we certainly don't deserve a man who belongs to someone else.
It's good that you brought your feelings here to discuss them. Remember that an A is not a real relationship no matter how much time you spend with a MM. He has other commitments and priorities which us single gals seem to have overlooked, and when we live in this kind of denial, reality is going to hit us very hard when reality comes knocking on our door.
It's normal to obsess over them and wonder if they miss us, but this is just wasting precious mental energy that could be used toward healing and moving on.
((Hugs))
Thank you again, so much. Yes, very true. I am glad to have finally come to and end with it. I just need my head to cooperate. The quote about when someone shows you who they are...it's funny I use that a lot, and I when I saw it written, I knew it fit the situation I left perfectly!