struggling with LC/NC today

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Registered: 01-30-2009
struggling with LC/NC today
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Wed, 04-07-2010 - 5:56am

hey ladies Im back to LC/NC with co-worker XAP since last week...and Im just struggling a bit today. So thought i would fight the urge to send him an IM or strike up conversation by posting here instead. I know i dont particularly care about him so i know this urge is purely just to see if he wants me. I know he will respond by talking or flirting (depending what mood he is in ) and it will make me feel great but then i know it will make me feel so sh*tty and cheap when he plays cool again. I know he doesn't care about me and I know he only uses me for an ego boost. So I am gonna fight the urge and NOT contact him now!!!

Sorry just had to vent here instead :)

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Registered: 02-02-2010
Wed, 04-07-2010 - 8:33am

Hi Gal-

I know that LC is tough... my LC situations the past few weeks certainly set me back in my healing. I've now entered a situation where LC will not be necessary and I can go full NC. I commend you for your strength. Posting here was the right thing to do. Just remember, and you said it yourself, you are wanting to be wanted or missed... that is pure ego, honey. YOu know that. So, put your ego aside. Focus on the negative ramifications of reaching out to him. Choose dignity.

Hugs,

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Registered: 01-30-2009
Wed, 04-07-2010 - 10:16am

hi jane


thank you so much for your reply. I have been following your posts and you are doing so well. Every single one of your posts has helped me and so many other women.


You are dead right it is definitely down to ego. I wonder what it is that makes me want my ego fed by him so bad. Its so silly. He is sitting across from me now and I can see there is nothing physical about him that i even find attractive! I can't even say hes a nice or caring person.

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Registered: 12-31-2009
Wed, 04-07-2010 - 5:08pm

Hey Gal,


I'm right there with you about the need for an ego boost today.