You are right - don't do it. Just wait. Remember Jane's 48 hour rule! One of my favorite post on EAS in "The Zen of doing nothing". I think it's in the healing section below. A must read. :-)
Each time you resist the urge to break NC, you become stronger; you gain back some of your control. So just stay the course. It really does work. Ask yourself... do you want to get better? Do you want to get over this as quickly as you can? Then you must stick to NC and allow yourself to heal. You can do this.
It sounds like your xap's W is throwing out feeders to you. She may know about the A and is sitting on her hands waiting. That's just too much of a coincidence.
TRUST ME...DO NOT CONTACT HIM! You will only regret it and it will set you back and you will be left feeling frustrated, upset, angry and asking yourself WHY-WHY-WHY did I do it?!? That is all you will gain from contacting him.
I understand how hard it is, trust me....lord knows I do. I work with XAP and have "gone back" so many times just to feel how I described above because I know, in my heart what I really need to do, NC!
It doesn't help either if you are "too nice" and polite, if you care about how you look to them, meaning; I was always so concerend if I came off mean and cruel, ya know what though, I don't care anymore because I am doing this for ME and for my KID and my H.
Don't contact him, if you feel tempted, come back to this board, read things from the healing library, anything....just don't contact him. Each time you refrain from contacting him the stronger you are going to become. Trust me!!!
Please stay STRONG and don't give in. I know easier said then done but I so want to be where you are right now. I want to be NC and find it hard to even begin. I have the good and bad angel on my shoulders and its so draining. Think of the relief you will feel and no more drama.
Woman - this is when you dig deep. You got all that strength deep down in there. Don't go giving it away to him anymore. Allow yourself to feel strong & capable. The fix he can offer you - well, where will it get you? You'll be humiliated and defeated - that's worse than struggling with this hurt. These are old wounds asking to heal - don't go making any new ones.
Bravo! You are starting to think with your head instead of knee-jerking with your heart. This is how it's done; one hour/day at a time until the heart and head begin to communicate with one another. I am glad that your "normally" was
One of my favorite post on EAS in "The Zen of doing nothing". I think it's in the healing section below. A must read. :-)
High-five PG!
Each time you resist the urge to break NC, you become stronger; you gain back some of your control. So just stay the course. It really does work. Ask yourself... do you want to get better? Do you want to get over this as quickly as you can? Then you must stick to NC and allow yourself to heal. You can do this.
Hugs,
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Hello girl210 ~
TRUST ME...DO NOT CONTACT HIM! You will only regret it and it will set you back and you will be left feeling frustrated, upset, angry and asking yourself WHY-WHY-WHY did I do it?!? That is all you will gain from contacting him.
I understand how hard it is, trust me....lord knows I do. I work with XAP and have "gone back" so many times just to feel how I described above because I know, in my heart what I really need to do, NC!
It doesn't help either if you are "too nice" and polite, if you care about how you look to them, meaning; I was always so concerend if I came off mean and cruel, ya know what though, I don't care anymore because I am doing this for ME and for my KID and my H.
Don't contact him, if you feel tempted, come back to this board, read things from the healing library, anything....just don't contact him. Each time you refrain from contacting him the stronger you are going to become. Trust me!!!
Hi Pilatesgirl,
Please stay STRONG and don't give in. I know easier said then done but I so want to be where you are right now. I want to be NC and find it hard to even begin. I have the good and bad angel on my shoulders and its so draining. Think of the relief you will feel and no more drama.
Keep your head up and YOU GOT THIS!!!
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
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Woman - this is when you dig deep. You got all that strength deep down in there. Don't go giving it away to him anymore. Allow yourself to feel strong & capable. The fix he can offer you - well, where will it get you? You'll be humiliated and defeated - that's worse than struggling with this hurt. These are old wounds asking to heal - don't go making any new ones.
Hang in - do nothing.
TU.
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
PG,
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Bravo! You are starting to think with your head instead of knee-jerking with your heart. This is how it's done; one hour/day at a time until the heart and head begin to communicate with one another. I am glad that your "normally" was
~Iddy~