Struggling today!

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Registered: 11-09-2009
Struggling today!
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Tue, 12-01-2009 - 1:32pm

I'm posting b/c I want SO BADLY to e-mail him :(

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Registered: 06-25-2006
Tue, 12-01-2009 - 10:58pm

Hi HH2B,

These kinds of chance encounters will throw you off kilter while you are still in healing mode. It's really important to remember that they can happen at any time if you live in the same city and the best you can do is to try to stay as detached and formal as possible. When the chance meeting is over, expect you will likely feel a sense of confusion. You might have wished you would already be at indifference by now. But because you have only been in NC for 3 weeks, you can't expect to be fully healed yet.

Do not email him! Staying in NC is the best way to ensure that you will heal completely and be able to move forward with your life.

My affair has been over for going on 4 years now. (It was a 3 year long affair.) I actually had a chance encounter with xMM tonight. I am delighted to report that it wasn't uncomfortable. I didn't have a racing heart or sweaty palms. I didn't look at him and remember. I didn't wonder about the status of his marriage.

Time and distance are the best healers. Keep that distance...and you will not be sucked back into the affair.

Best,
TTS

 

~TTS

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Registered: 11-09-2009
Fri, 12-04-2009 - 10:58am

Thank you so much for the response TTS :)