Struggling today

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Registered: 04-19-2003
Struggling today
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Wed, 05-11-2005 - 3:23pm

It's been 1 week and 2 days since the "break up". I am struggling today with emotions. I spoke with xMM on phone and had a rather decent conversation. After I got off phone-got antsy. Wanted more . ..more conversation, more time, more attention. Then I felt stupid . . suckered.

HELP!!!

Kim

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: kimtc1
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 6:25pm

I know what you mean. He got what he wanted out of you - a nice conversation to give him the fix he needed and you are left feeling empty inside, like you gave something away and got nothign back. Stop trying to be the bigger person. Stop trying to be the nice guy. You dont have to be mean or send angry emails or VMs. Next time he calls, say you are running out the door and can't talk - even if it kills you - it will make you feel better in the long run to have some control over your life. Why should get his "kim" fix? Screw these people who can;t decide what they want. lets show them what they have lost.

Ivy

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Registered: 03-02-2005
In reply to: kimtc1
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 6:56pm
Congratulations! You are beginning to see the reality. It will never be enough for you again. As You see the truth you start seeing exactly what is going on and eventually you will not even want that conversation. All contact will leave you sad and wanting more. You come to the place where you know it is just more pain and it is worth nothing. Then you won't talk to him because you truly don't want to put yourself through that. It may take awhile but it is a process. You are doing fine!
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Registered: 04-04-2005
In reply to: kimtc1
Wed, 05-11-2005 - 7:20pm

Kim

NO CONTACT is the path that leads out of all the bad feelings and the addictive sensations, if you want to get to the place were you will be better more and more as time goes on then TOTAL NO CONTACT ENFORCED BY YOU is the way to get there.

Continue contact and you get to enjoy everyday as much as you have this one.

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