Struggling....Confused....Unhappy.....
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Struggling....Confused....Unhappy.....
| Tue, 12-08-2009 - 10:16am |
Hello all,
I posted about two weeks ago, doing the NC thing, and upset he wasn't fishing or trying to contact me. Well, at the 2 week mark we both logged onto our yahoo account and began chatting. (So I guess it was a simultaneous breaking of NC) Anyway, we

You can't be friends with an affair partner, it's like putting a sober alcoholic in a bar.
LFT,
I'm afraid you are going to find out the hard way that being
~Iddy~
Thanks CL-Iddy!! Ya know I have read here...read and read and read....(trying to get it through my thick skull this A is soooo bad for me and could hurt innocent people) Believe it or not, I kind of feel like the "What Being Friends Really Means" thread doesn't really apply to me. He doesn't really care about sex...he's fine with it if I want it, but he seems to want the contact/friendship more. Don't really get that. So when he says he just wants to meet to catch up or keep in touch to know what I am up to, he really does. He's only been married for a year.....seems strange doesn't it. I can't quite figure out why he likes this arrangement so much. Sounds like his wife is actually very laid back and is very good to him. Anyway, I wanted to thank you for your response. I definately feel the "crippling sadness" you
Awww Mom,
Thanks for your reply. What do you think you are going to do? I have to say, I have been aware for a couple of years now that I may have made the wrong choice by marrying when and who I did. We've been through counseling and he is willing to do whatever he needs to, but I really don't think it's anything HE can do. I am too scared to make the move now, financially and because of my kids ages, but STILL, it may be a mistake to think it will be better anywhere else. Right now I need to try to stop thinking about how much I want to be with the other guy. He also is a wonderful man, but very taken. I guess for now we have to find happiness via other means, not with a another man. Good Luck!
Hi live,