Stunned and confused
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| Thu, 03-04-2010 - 12:18am |
Sorry to be bombarding the board like this. I know I just posted, but something just happened that I had to get out before I explode.
I was sitting here playing Turbo 21 waiting for my husband to call (he is on a business trip) so I could go to bed. My home phone rings and I answer it without thinking because it so late and I knew it would be my husband. Only it wasn't. It was xAP. He knows the rules about my home phone. He doesn't call it unless I tell him he can. Yet he did. I said "Hey baby" and he said "Hey to you too". I sat there in stunned silence. I sat there. I listened to him. Why did I do that? He said "So you want to end it? That's fine. You could have just told me. You didn't have to be such a b*tch about it, but what else should have I expected from you. Don't you worry your pretty little head about it, I wouldn't contact you again if you paid me. But maybe your husband would be interested in these e-mails." and he hung up.
I guess he knew that I was having a bad day and he had to rub it in and make it worse. I am so hurt, sad, and angry right now. I am so shocked and upset that I can't even think straight. Its midnight and I am just sitting here crying. I don't even know what to do with this information. Why would he purposely try to hurt me? I wasn't trying to hurt him. I just wanted it to be over.

(((CLM)))
I was sawing logs when you posted this. I wish I could have been there for you. :(
I cannot believe that tool called your house and made threats like that. I can totally understand why you were so stunned. Talk about immature and cruel. His real colors are finally showing.
I wouldn't put too much merit in his threat to send those emails. Isn't he M too? He has just as much to lose as you do, and right now he's just blowing off steam because his ego has been badly bruised. He does sound a bit scary though. First coming to your house and now calling your home phone is just going too far, IMO.
My advice is to do nothing. Do not contact him thinking you can talk him down because that is what he is counting on. Just ignore this and keep on your healing path. Hopefully this will be the end of his wrath, but if not, then you will have to make a decision as to whether you need to come clean with H.
I am so sorry he is putting you through this mental anguish. My prayers are with you.
Love and hugs,
~Iddy~
OMG!!!
I think you guys are right. Now that I am over the shock of it I don't believe for a second that he would tell my husband. He has just as much to lose as I do. I can't believe he would do this two times in one week. He is in his forties and he is acting like he is back in highschool. If he doesn't stop his sh** my husband is going to find out.
I'm angry. I'm not sad, I'm MAD! So mad. I can't believe someone I cared for would treat me like this. Maybe he did me a favor. He made me realize that I definitely made the right decision. Every time those sad thoughts start creeping back in I am just going to come read this post and remember that I obviously never meant anything to him.
There are no tears today. I actually feel a sense of relief. Its finally over. There is no way I would ever try to contact him again. So maybe in a weird way he helped me with my healing process? I really hope I can keep these angry feeling with me.
Thank you ladies. As always you are a huge comfort. Big hugs.