Such thing as too honest?
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Such thing as too honest?
| Sat, 06-05-2010 - 10:55pm |
Ok, so here I am.. been trying to reconcile with H
| Sat, 06-05-2010 - 10:55pm |
Ok, so here I am.. been trying to reconcile with H
Aw, I'm sorry you are dealing with this.
Hi HA7Y,
I remember from some of your previous posts that you did go to MC. Don’t know if your H went to IC to deal with his anger? It seems from your previous posts that he still has a lot of anger. I cannot imagine trying to rebuild and connect with my DH and him continually spewing hurtful remarks especially at dinner in front of our kids as your H did in front of your D last year. I can see how you would become numb to it. I could see how it would be very hard to reconnect when he is pushing you further away with his anger.
Has your H done anything to change or acknowledge his shortcomings in the M? Have you been able to express in MC or in talking to your H how he has hurt you in the past?
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Picture the situation reversed.
Hi, Heartache-
I think there is such a thing as too much honesty.
But I think there is something deeper going on with you and this post is just the tip of the iceberg.
I went back and read all of your old posts... I think you might be asking for permission to give up on your M. Am I way off base?
We really need sooooo much more information, as Iddy said, before we can help you.
Until then - love and prayers for strength.
Dee
Thanks for the posts.
Hi HAA7Y,
It’s so good to read you are going to IC and doing the hard work of learning and growing! Nothing compares to it!
As far as nothing in M changing even after MC, that is disheartening.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Thanks E1-
I always appreciate your kind words and insightful questions.
Do you think there would be hope in you connecting with your H if things in the M did change?
Hey there beautiful lady! Thanks for posting a pic. It’s so nice to connect a actual real living person to a post.
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Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.